Threshold Thursday Episode: "Breaking Through Mental Barriers on the Path to Healing

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I'm your host now and we Banks, and today we are diving deep into those mental barriers that keep us stuck at the threshold. Of our transformation. So you know this week that we've been walking through you know, my explit journey together, you know, from the decision making process with doctor Will on Monday, to me sharing my deepest why on Tuesday, and to exploring feminine wellness with amazing Latasha yesterday and today. I want to talk about something that every single person listening is going to relate to, and that that is those mental blocks you see that that shows up right right when we're about to make that life changing decision. But before we get deep into this topic, let's take a quick break. Right, it's you God, it's not your Banks here on this season a self love podcast, and we'll be right back. Washington wells into two focuses on healing always for me. If I look good, then I feel good. If I feel good, then I share the good. 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Before we dive in into our topic, let's just ground ourselves in this sacred space of transformation, all right. So if you can close your eyes, if you can, and just find a comfortable position, I want you to take a deep breath in through your nose. Hold it. Now, it's held through your mouth. I want you to imagine yourself standing at the threshold, not just any doorway, but the doorway to your next level of being. Fear your feet, playing it firmly on the ground. You are safe, you are supported, and you are exactly where you need to be. Now, with your next breath, I want you to breathe in courage and breathe out And now I want you to breathe in clarity and breathe out confusion. And his next breath, I want you to breathe and trust and breathe out doubt. Now place your hand on your heart and repeat after me silently. I am brave enough to cross this threshold. I trust my journey, I honor micro and take one more deep breath thin, and when you are ready, gently open your eyes. I write my beautiful people. If you're new here to the Season and Self Love podcast, it's something that we do every day Monday through Friday. Just they have great to ground us before we get to the top of a hand. I write my beautiful soul. So you know, as I've been preparing for my surgery next that I've been experiencing something that I know many of you have felt. And it's those moments when your mind tries to talk you out of the very thing that your soul is calling you toward. You know, So let me be real with you. Even though I know in my bones that removing these implants is the right decision for me, but there have been nights when I've laid in my bed and thought, what if I'm making a mistake, What if I regret this? What if I don't feel feminine anymore? And you know what, I realize this is exactly where the real work happens, not in the decision itself, but in the mental space between the decision and the action. So let's talk about that threshold space. So there's this space that I call it the threshold space right where we've been made. We are already made the decision, but having yet having yet stepped into the new reality. And let me tell you, this space can it can be very scary because this is where our old programming comes up. It needs to be healed, right, you know, when you're there, you've made that decision, You're sitting there and you can see the reality, but you haven't been in that reality as of yet. And so there's all these whys. There's all these whis. And not the why that I used on Tuesday, but the why okay, why am I doing this? Or the what ifs? And for me and for me, these old voices they have been very loud, been very loud this week, especially when I decided that I was going to put myself on Front Street and share my story. And I'm gonna share some more of these loud voices that I've been getting this week. You know, you built your career on this image, right, you built your career on this image? And next, what will people think? You know? Are you being dramatic? You know, the symptoms might not even be from the implants. There might be something totally different. Or you're too old to start over with your body. Does it sound familiar? Maybe your threshold voices are saying to you you're not enough to start that business, or you're too old to go back to school, or you don't deserve that relationship, or who are you to think that you can change? Those voices are loud. But today we're going to talk about how can we make those voices. Whispers? How can we make them where they're less important in our mental space? So let's talk about the psychology of fear. Here's what I've learned about this mental barriers that we have. They're not actually trying to stop us, but they're trying to keep us safe. You know, this is a part of our nervous system, and in our nervous system, it's literally designed to keep us in familiar territory, even when that territory is harming us. That's because we're familiar with it, you know, Doctor Will and I we talk about this on Monday on how our brain would choose the familiar discomfort over the unfamiliar possibility every single time unless we consciously intervene. You see what I feel, that fear rising about my surgery. Learn to pause and acts. Is this fear giving me information or is it trying to keep me small? And see there's a difference, y'all. Fear as information sounds like fear as information sounds like make sure you have a good support system in place. Now what it sounds like for fear trying to keep these small sounds like you're making the biggest mistake of your life. And usually we say, these are the stories that we tell ourselves, right, you know That's why you see the stories that we tell ourselves about why we can't change are usually more creative than any fiction novel. You know, I was telling myself if I removed my implants, that I might lose my confidence. But the truth is that my confidence isn't my brain. It's in my spirit, It is in my wisdom, and it is my ability. To love and serve others. You see, if I remove my implants, I won't feel feminine. You know, that's that little sound in the back of my mind. But the truth is is that my femininity isn't about my cup size. It isn't about how I move through the world, how I nurture, how I create, or how I love. Another story. Is if I remove my implanse, my career will suffer. But the truth is my career is built on my authenticity and my transformation. And this is authenticity and transformation. So my question is to you right now, what stories are you telling yourself about why you can't. Or what have your soul. Been calling you for? And I'm gonna say that again just in case you missed that. What stories are you telling yourself about why you can't have what your soul is calling for you? So you know, I'm just not gonna leave you like that. So I have some tools for breaking through that. I wanna share some practical twos that have been helping me to navigate these mental barriers. And I think we talked about a little bit before earlier on Monday, but one of the things is the reality check questions when a fear comes up. I ask myself, is this actually true? Or is this my wounded inner child trying to protect me? Usually it's the latter. And then my next one is the ten year vision. I imagine my self as sixty three looking back on this decision. What would that future version of myself want. Me to know? You always say trust yourself, you got this. I'm proud of you. You've grown so much. You did this. And the third is about the body wisdom practice. I know I share with you in meditations about placing your hands on your heart, but that is what I do. I place my hand on my heart and I ask my body what it means, and every single time it says freedom, healing, and authenticity. Just the other day, I was doing a pre recording of an amazing guest that's coming up soon in the next few weeks, and I remember having this conversation with her about freedom. She shared with me that the day after she got her explains, she removed her implants. It was a sense of freedom that just came over her body and she was just so at ease. And I remember during that conversation it was tears in my eyes, and I say, I can see that, like I shared with you all before, the disabling feeling that I feel when I have those I want to say, episodes when my body shuts down on me completely and vertigo happens, and legs swell up and you can't move. It's very disabling. And I said, I truly, truly, my heart and my prayers go out to anybody who was dealing with a disability of being paralyzed, because that is what you feel like. The next one is the gratitude refrain. So instead of us focusing on what I might lose, I focus on what I'm gaining. I'm gaining my health, I'm gaining my alignment, I'm gaining my complete authenticity. But also I am gaining a community that I've always prayed to be able to serve, and that was women. And so y'all know, I don't make any major decisions without considering the spiritual aspect of it. And this is the spiritual dimension, and what I've been receiving in my meditation time is this. Sometimes God calls us to release the very things that we once prayed for, not as it a punishment, but as a promotion. You see, these implants, they served their purpose and a certain season in my life, but seasons change, and what served me at thirty one years old doesn't serve me at fifty three. And this isn't about rejecting my past. It's about honoring my growth. And you know, we talk a lot about the ripple effect of courage, and again I had the pleasure of sitting down with some amazing women that's sharing their story and that takes courage. And I remember one of them saying, you know, when I saw your post up in the Facebook page, and I said, man, that's a great idea. I would love to do that. When you said about you going through your surgery and you using your platform to do this, I got the urge to get the courage to share my story as well, not just on this platform here on Facebook and a group, but I want a possibility to share my voice with millions other million other women that I know have probably been in the same predicament of situation that I am. So here's what I want you to understand, my beautiful people out there, is that when you break through your mental barriers and you step into your truth, you don't just change your life, you change the lives of everyone watching you. I know my daughters are watching how I navigate this decision. My listeners are taking notes. Other women are considering explains and are finding courage in my story, Men who need to make difficult health decisions are learning that it's okay to prioritize wellness over image. So when we choose courage over comfort. We give everyone around us permission to do the same. So let's talk about your threshold moment right now. So I want to ask you what threshold are you standing at right now? What decision in your soul is calling you to make that your mind is trying to talk you out of. So maybe it's leaving a job that's draining your soul, or ending a relationship that no longer is serving you, as starting a business that you've been dreaming about, and maybe moving to a new city, going to going back to school, having a difficult conversation, prioritizing your help, of just setting boundaries with family, a better yet just investing in yourself. But whatever it is, I want you to know that those mental barriers that you're experiencing, they're normal, they're part of the process, and that don't mean that you're making the wrong decision. They mean that you're making a significant one. And so here's what I want you to do to practice for this week. One, I want you to name your threshold, what decision. It's calling you. Two, I want you to identify your mental barriers and what stories are you telling yourself about. Why you can't? And three question those stories? Question those stories that you tell yourself are they true or are they a protection mechanism? And for connect with your why? What's the deeper reason that this change matters to you? And last number five, take one small action? What's one tiny step you can make towards your threshold this week? And I want you to remember that crossing the threshold doesn't happen all at one time. It happens one brave choice at a time. So, my beautiful people, before we close, let's do an ending meditation together, all right, So if you're already, please close your eyes, and I want you to place your hands, both of your hands, onto your heart, and I want you to feel that heart beat, a steady, strong and wise. And when you breathe in, I want you to breathe in trust. And breathe out fear. I want you to breathe in possibilities and breathe out limitations. I want you to breathe in power and breathe in doubt. Now now, I want you to see yourself six months from now, having crossed this threshold that's calling you today. I want you to look at that version of yourself and how do they stand, how do they smile? What energy do they carry? You? See, that person is already within you. They're not waiting for you to become that perfect They're waiting for you to become brave. So now take one more deep breath in. When you are ready, open your eyes. I write, my beautiful people, well, tomorrow is Freedom Friday, and and I'm going to share some powerful tools for preparing practical and spiritual with you in a very major, major way. So until then, I want you to remember that you are braver than you believe you are. You are stronger than you've seen, and you are more capable than you can ever imagine. That that threshold that you're. Standing at, you, that you're standing at right now, you're ready to cross it. You are so ready to cross it. I love you, I see you, and I am cheering you on every step of the way. Have an amazing, an amazing day, and keep keep choosing courage, have it all. Thank you for joining us on this journey of discovering and empowerment here at the Season and Self Love Podcast. Remember, embracing self love is a continuous journey and we're so. Glad to have you with us. 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