The Environment of Excellence

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I am your Hostnami Banks, and today we are continuing our powerful week of elevation. Yesterday we had an incredible conversation with Kevin Paula Mari about transformation and potential and one thing that really stood out was how our environment shapes our growth. Well, today we are diving deep into creating what I call your environment excellence. But first let's take. A quick break in and when we come back, we're going to dive deeper into this conversation. All right, it's your gurty God, is not me Banks here on this season and Steph Love Podcast and we'll be right back. What are some commons that prevent people from Hey, it's your gurty God? Is not many Banks here from the season and self Love Podcast. Yeah, I would say remorse. So shame and guilt is a very dividing emotion. 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Go to axs Naomi dot com and tell them Naomi sent you. All right, well, welcome back to this is in the SUM podcast. I am your host nam Events, and today we are diving deep into creating what I call your environment, excellus. But before we get into listed ourselves with our daily meditation. All right, all right, I want. You to take a comfortable position wherever you are and close your eyes if it's safe to do so. Breathe deeply into your space, Feel the air filling your lungs now with each breath. Become aware of your surroundings, the space you occupy, the energy around you. Now, I want you to notice, without judgment, how your environment makes you feel. Are you contracted or are you expanding. Are you tense or are you relaxed? Just simply observe. Now. I want you to take one final deep breath in, and when you are ready, I want you gently open your eyes and carry this awareness with you as we begin. Now. If you are new here to the Season and Stuff lo podcast, it's something that we do every day Monday through Friday here on the Season and Stuff Podcast, I write my beautiful people, so you know, yes, conversation with Kevin really got me thinking about something profound. We often focus so much on changing ourselves, right, but how often do we look at changing the space around us, the people, the places. The energy we surround ourselves with. Right See. I remember when I first started my elevation journey. I was trying to grow while staying in spaces that kept me small. It was like trying to plant a garden and soil that won't support growth. It was like like. This past summer, I was trying to grow a beautiful garden in a desert, in the middle of a desert. I was trying to build a beautiful garden which started off great, but all of a sudden it was just burning in the middle of it. But today, today, we're going to talk about how to create and furtile the soil of your elevation. First, let's talk about understanding your current environment. Let's start with the powerful exercise that I call energy Audit. Energy Audit. So, I want to take a moment to think about the last three places you spent the most time in your home, your workplace, and maybe a friend's house. Now, how do these spaces make you feel? Do they leave you feeling energized or drained? All right, I'm gonna repeat that. All right. I want you to think of the last three places you spent the most time in, and these are just examples, your home, your workplace, or maybe a friend's house. And how do these spaces make you feel? Do they leave you feeling energized or drained? Now? You see, elevation isn't just about what we do. It's about where we do it and who we do it with. Yeah, so let me let me share a story with you. And I'm gonna go back. I'm gonna go back. Mm. I'm gonna go back at the time when I lived in uh Valencia, California, and I had a beautiful home, beautiful home, and I remember allowing my home to be open to everyone, meaning that I'm mm, so let me say this. My grandmother, both of my my beautiful grandmother's homes were a s a s a space and a place that they will allow people to come in with their problems and their troubles. And they will help people. My grandmothers, both of them will take people in and allow them to stay with them. One of my grandmothers actually raised other people children, you know, as well as both of my grandmothers has. But as I always said, they had a revolving door in their home. And so I thought that was so empowering. I thought that was so beautiful to have a big heart like that, and I know that that is a part of my heart, and so I said that was going to be me because guess what I was a part of going as a revolving door in my grandmother's home. And so I figured once I had my place, that I was going to do the same thing. But what I didn't understand is that when I did that, I was allowing I wanted energy into my space. I didn't know that when people were coming in and they were bringing energy that were being dropped off into my space and my home and I did not realize that and I did not understand. So in a process, I was building energy that was no longer wanted by me. But also my home did not recognize my energy, and so it was no longer aligned. It was times that I used to come home from set or whatever that I would sit in my car and like, oh my god, I don't want to be here. And it had to do nothing with my family inside. It was just the energy that was in my home. And the crazy thing is I did not even know what it was. I didn't realize what it was until probably about. Maybe ten years ago maybe, And. I really think it's when I really started going on my spiritual journey that I truly understood. What that was. Understand I thought that I was helping people, not understanding that there's still things that I needed. To do for my home. You know, even though when people came to my home and they were, you know, telling me their stories, I was able to help them out. They were dumping their situations and issues there and they walked off and they were free, but they were leaving it there for me and my family, and I didn't know it. But I wanted to share that with you because we have to be very cautious on our environment and who we allow in our spaces. You understand what I'm saying, and that's something that throughout my spiritual journey and me learning more about me, healing and growing, this is something. That man like. I am more aware of now more than anything, more than anything. All right, So let's talk about something real, your relationship circle. And I'm gonna go back to what I just spoke about before. And Kevin mentioned yesterday on how relationships are often based on a convenience weather than growth, and that hit home for me. So remember, so remember when I talked about allowing my house to be a revolving door that opens and allowing people to come into my space and be able to sit with them and talk with them in counsel you know, I was just counseling. I was just talking, you know, being that good friend, being that because being that big, you know, just doing all of that, allowing them to bring that energy in and dump you know, put it there. But then that wasn't allowing me to grow. You know. Also, I want you to think about this. I want you to think about the five closest relationship right now, and I want you to ask yourself, do these relationships and challenge me to grow? Do they celebrate your wings? Do they whole space for my evolution? There was something that happened to me and I believe it's in twenty eighteen that changed my entire life. This is when I lost my home. This is when I started to see the people around me. This is when I started to see, and I started to see and had to evaluate the closest relationships that I had, and that showed me. That's what I had to break it down and ask myself. With these relationships, do they challenge me to grow? Which one do and which one don't? In this process? Do they celebrate my wins? And I had to look at them too, Do they hold space for my evolution? Or am I the one that's doing that for them? And I found myself I was the one that was doing that for them, but they couldn't do it for me and I didn't see it. But in twenty eighteen it allowed me to see it. So even though my house was taken from me, everything felt like it was falling apart. But it wasn't. I was hating to be removed out of that space and move into another space to remove me from those. Does that make sense? Because once I moved over to this new space, those that were no longer aligned with me, they didn't come over here with me, And those that did and still wasn't aligned, they were exposed quickly and were removed. Quickly. And I started to pay attention. And it's so funny because how. We just live our lives and just go on and we don't even understand. You know, when we talk about changing our paradigm, we always talk about ourselves. But I had this conversation with this beautiful young lady just the other day, and we talked about the changing our paradigm. But it's also about the paradigm around us, the energy around us as well. So it's just not us, but it's also the people around us too that we have to change. So when we talk about elevation and elevating ourselves, we definitely have to think about the people around us. Are they ready for that elevation, Are they ready for that elevated part of you? Or are they going to be the ones to keep holding you down. I know many times I talk about we outlive seasons, and we do. I am guilty of it. I am so guilty of it, and I am truly working on that to not outlive my season with anyone because I definitely do not want to hold anyone down, and I don't want nobody to hold me down because I want to see everybody elevate to the most greatest of who they are. And also, remember this isn't about judgment. I want you to remember that this is not about judgment. It's about awareness. And sometimes the people who we've been the longest aren't the ones who can take. Us where we're going. That is probably the hardest thing that I will ever say, and I'm gonna say this again. Sometimes the people who have been with us the longest aren't the ones who can take with us where we're going. When I say that, I've had friendships that was over twenty years. That are no longer aligned with me. There are moments that I've had that I've cried because I understand that we've outlived our seasons with each other. It felt like a divorce when those conversations are no longer the same, when you've outgrown those conversations, when they can't respect your growth or better, yeah, you can't respect their growth. When you can't see them anew. When you always have to go back to the old version of them, or they have to always go and remind you of the old version of you, then you know, no, this is the time that you have to connect with genuine authentic people. Genuine authentic people. All right. Let's talk about creating an elevation environment. All right, So let's talk about let's get practical. So here's three steps that to create your environment of excellence. That's what we're gonna call it. We can call it the environment to excellence. All right. Number one, physical space clean up. Let me tell y'all, I've been saying that I've been doing some cleaning inside out. I've been doing inside out cleaning, and that I have this inside out cleaning. What I thought, and I told y'all believe it was last week that I thought it was gonna take me, you know. About a few days or a week. And I am still doing it. I literally woke up this morning and I said, I still got too much stuff. I am still holding onto too much stuff. I'm still holding onto too much stuff because when I sleep, I see visually, I see everything. When I wake up, there's a block that's still there. So I have to clear my physical space, physical clean up, clear your physical space for anything that doesn't align with your vision. Old clothing, old shoes, old wigs, yes I said, wigs, oh, anything, and create a designated area for growth and reflection. So for me, I know that I work within my home. I am a caregiver as well, and so I want vision throughout my whole entire home to be in line of who I am and what I am to be. And so that means that's a whole overall, a whole over all in my home. But guess what I do mine on a budget. So I have now taken pulled up the carpet in my hallway, pulled up the carpet in my bedroom, redoing the cabintry in my kitchen, redoing the floors throughout the home, redoing my bedroom. I'm doing a whole overall because I know what it is that I want to look at when I wake up in the morning. I know I want to simplify it's so much more and open it up for a vision that I see when I'm sleeping and when I wake up. I want it to be my reality. If that makes sense. And you add the elements that inspire, hire and energize you. So when I open up my eyes, I want to see those things around me because it motivates me even more. It makes you work even harder, or let's just like say harder, Let's say it makes you work more. The next one is digital detox and reset to audit your social media feeds, create boundaries around technology use, and fuel your digital space with content that elevates. That's something that I thought about a lot about is I'm following a lot of things and a lot a lot of people and a lot of things. This is something that I've thought about for years, and that's something that I'm going to do over the next few weeks. Yeah. The next one is the relationship restructure. This is one you have to have honor honest conversation about your growth journey. And this is probably one of the hardest conversations that you were going to have to have with yourself. And you have to start setting healthy boundaries, healthy boundaries and seek out growth minded connections. You know, over the past couple of weeks just going through this, I myself have been setting healthy boundaries with loved ones. That I love. Oh my god, I love them so much, and I want them to do so well, and I see so much potential in them. I see them doing so many great things. But I also see them sabotaging themselves. And in the process of them sabbath tajing themselves, they can be very defermential to them, to them, in you, in me, because when people are not and I'm gonna say this, and y'all gonna say, really, not me, when people are truly not aware of themselves, they would throw off on you. They would throw off on you. They would throw off on their their bad habits on you. They would throw off their lackness of themselves on you. They would start questioning who you are. They would start putting their doubt of themselves on you. And others. And it's like, that's not what I that's not the company that I want to keep. And so even though you might see. Them as being, oh my god, they can be the greatest person possible, But in this moment, you have to choose you first. Maybe in this moment, in this season, maybe this is not the season for them for you to be with them in this season. I had said this a while ago. Usually what I do is I say a prayer. Before I am about to remove myself from a friendship or a relationship, I say a prayer and I ask God to remove me in them from this relationship and peace, and that I ask that they cover them and protect them as they go on in life being the best version of themselves that they can possibly be, and that if any moment that they are to come back into my life, that they are to come back when we are aligned. And when it is God willing. And why I do that is because I am not only protecting them, but I am protecting myself. That is because if I'm leaving you is out of love. I don't want to hurt either one of us. I don't want to hurt our growth. I don't want to be that friend that continued to subscribe to the madness. No. Mm hmmm. I have a family. I have an assignment, And just because you don't want to abide by your assignment, that doesn't mean I don't. Does that make sense, y'all? Nope, I'm not preaching today. I promise y'all or not. I promise y'all or not. All right, very beautiful people, So before we close today, I want to give you a powerful homework assignment. All right, I don't look doctor, will don't give homework assignments, but I do. All right. So I want you to choose one area of your environment, whether it's physical, digital, or relationship, and make one significant change this week, just one. And I want you to remember what Kevin had said yesterday. Progress is invisible day to day, but impossible to miss year to year. Tomorrow we'll talk about turning this awareness into consistent action, but for now, focused on creating that space for growth. All right, all right, my beautiful people, again, thank you for sharing this space with me today, and remember you deserve an environment that supports your elevation. This is your girl. The God has Nammy Banks here and you're listening to this season a stelf Love podcast. All Right. Intomorrow's episode, we are diving into how to take consistent actions toward your elevation, and we'll be talking about. Small, practical strategies for it. All right, all right, amazing day. Thank you for joining us on this journey of discovering and empowerment here at the Season and Self Love Podcast. Remember, embracing self love is a continuous journey, and we're so glad to have you with us, So if you enjoy today's episode, please leave us a review and don't forget to join our community on Facebook at Season and self Love connect with like minded individuals who are also on their self love journey. Now, if you have any questions or topics that you'd like for us to explore, we'd love to hear from you. Email us at Season usseelf Love at gmail dot com and let. Your voice be heard. So until next time, take a moment for yourself today and remember you are worthy of love, joy, and all the beautiful things that life has to offer.