Reclaimed & Unashamed: Living Beyond Others' Judgments | Threshold Thursday Special Episode

Welcome to the Season of Self Love Podcast, the Season of Healing Intentionally. I am your host, Naomi Banks, and I am so glad that you are here. This season, we are slowing down to go deeper. Every Monday and Wednesday, we're creating a space of intentional healing, authentic conversations, and the kind of self love that transformed from the inside out. This podcast is brought to you by Axs, Naomi and Elevate Me Self Discovery. Well, we believe that loving yourself intentionally is a foundation of true transformation. So whether you're on your own journey of rebirth navigating life transitions, we're simply choosing yourself. This is your safe space. So get comfort, grab your favorite beverage, and let's heal together intentionally because you deserve to embrace that beautiful person that you are. Now, let's get started, right, my beautiful people, Welcome back to Threshold Thursday here on the Season of Stuff Love Podcast. You know what, this is a very special episode here. It is because this one is coming from my heart. First, let me say this that I am officially eleven weeks post up from my excellented surgery, and while I'm still healing, I am truly taking things slow, taking things slow as right now we're just just doing two episodes a week. But this particular episode here, it just wouldn't let me rest, and it was calling me, and it was just pulling me, and it was just demanding me to share this episode. Well, a few days ago, I received the DM on Instagram and it just stopped me writing my track. Someone reached out to me and they said, Hi, Naomi. I love that you're trying to change and love your new life, but do you struggle sometimes wondering how other might view your past? I have that problem too, And let me tell y'all something. When I read that, I felt that it was soul like because I knew what this person was feeling because I've been there before. I've been that before. Where I am now is not where I started when I left the industry, and I promise you that it didn't. So this episode is for that person. It's for anyone who is reinventing themselves, anyone who is rebuilding, anyone that has reclaimed me, anyone that is carrying this weight, this fear about being judged on who they used to be, on who they used to be, and you know, what This is the perfect way to close out our Stepping into Authenticity series this month. What way to end it right? What way to end it right? You know, we've been diving deep into what it means to show up as your true self, and today we bringing it home. We're ringing it right home with this powerful conversation about living una shame. This ties directly to our year rebirth theme, because rebirth isn't just about you becoming new. It's about integrating every version of yourself and standing unashamed in your full story. But you know what, let's take a quick break and then we come back. 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You have some amazing guests that come from you never know. Just make sure you tune me at Thursday nine six pm SI cent of time. Go to asksdyom dot com and tell them Naomi saw All right, welcome back to my beautiful people. Welcome to the season the Seer Podcast again. My name is Naomi Banks, and today it's a very special episode for Threshold Thursday. It's called Reclaim It Under Shame, Living Beyond Other Judgments. As I said before, this is probably the very best way to end this amazing series that we had this month of stepping into your authenticity. But before we truly get into this topic, you know how we do it. We're going to take a nice little moment for us just to ground ourselves before. We do that. So right now, wherever you at in this moment in time, I ask that you get comfortable as we do this. All right, wherever you are right now, I want you to find a comfortable position. And if you are driving, I want you to keep your eyes open. But everyone else, if you feel safe to do so, gently close your eyes. Now, let's start with three deep breaths together. Okay, I wanted to breathe in slowly through your nose. Too. Four. Now release it through your mouth again, breathing through your nose, hold and let go one more time, filling your lungs completely. Now exhale everything that doesn't serve you. Now bring you awareness to your feet. I want you to fill them on the ground, connected to the earth. You are supported, you are held, and I want you to place one hand on your heart and I want you to feel it beating this beautiful rhythm that has carried you through every single chapter of your life. Now, I want you to visualize your past not as a prison that confines you, but as a foundation that you're standing on. Every choice, every mistake, every moment of joy and pain, there are stones beneath your feet, making you steady and then making you strong. Now, I want you to imagine any judgments, any shame, any fear, or what others think. I want you to visualize it as a dark falk around you. And now, with each breath, I want you to watch that fall dissolve. That has no power here, it never did. Now I want you to bring your awareness back to now to your solar plexus just right above your belly button. That's your power center. I want you to feel it glowing with golden light. This is your power, This is your choice, this is your voice. Now say with me in your mind, I am not my past, I am my choices. Today. Now bring that light up to your heart center, and I want you to feel it expand with green healing energy, the energy of self compassion, the energy of self love. You are not broken, you never were. You are whole, You are integrated, and you are complete. Now, when you are ready, take one more deep breath in, and as you excel, I want you to let this affirmation settle in your bones. I am reclaimed, I am unashamed. Now gently open your eyes and we'll go your fingers and toes, and I want you to come back to this moment. I am reclaimed and I am unashamed. If you are new here to this season Acephalo podcast, It's something we do every show, is that we have ground ourselves before we get into the topic. You hand, this was a little longer than we usually do, but I truly felt like we needed to do this today. And like I mentioned, I got that message a few days ago on Instagram and it truly pulled at my strings and truly I felt it in my heart and my soul. And I'm gonna tell you, very honestly if it truly made me full. And what I mean is because I'm doing exactly what I'm supposed to be doing. I'm doing exactly what I'm supposed to be doing and why I am here in this moment now. But I know me getting to this point right here, it wasn't that easy. And just as that letter asks me, you know, how how can I get past those judgments? So what I've done in my past? How can I get there? And so I want to talk about the very first thing is the fear, as a fear on what others might think of me. So when I did receive that message, you know you you do struggle. You do struggle sometimes wondering how others might fveil your past. And let me tell you what that's really asking? What's that really saying? And I know because those are the feelings and the emotions that I went through. It is asking am I less than because of my past? And it's also asking will people judge me? Will they see me as damage? Will my history define my worth? But it's also asking am I allowed to change? Am I allowed to grow? Am I allowed to be someone new? Why still honoring who I was? And here's what I want you to know that this fear is universal. What you're feeling is so universal is everyone has felt that feeling, no matter what they had done in life. So if you felt this, know that you are not alone. You are not broken for filing this. You are beautiful, You are perfectly human. But here's where it gets heavy. And I remember having this conversation with my husband earlier. Today. Women carry all of this differently. We carry this differently, We carry the shame differently, we carry the guilt differently. We carry this in a way that men often don't have to, because society has taught us that our worth is tied to our purity. Our worth is tied to our choices, Our worth is tied to our bodies, and our worth is tied to our past. We're taught that redemption are for men, but women, we're supposed to be perfect from the start, from the start. And there's this, there's a difference between shame and guilt, and I think that it's very important to name that here. Guilt says I did something wrong. Shame says I am wrong. Guilt can be very useful when it tells us when we've stepped out of alignments or with our values, and it guides us, you know, back to the same way. But when when we talk about shame, shame is a prison. Shame is you are your worst moment, you are your biggest mistake, You're your most painful chapter. And shame will keep you small, Shame will keep you silent, and shame will keep you hiding. And as I mentioned before, I know this. I know this because I lived it. I lived it, so I want to share something with you. I had created an album that I released for my birthday called the Soundtrack of the Rebirth, and it's one particular song called Reclaiming un a shame. And how I began writing this this song was just remembering me when I felt the very first time I felt that I was not woman enough. And this is when I was thirteen years old. I was thirteen years old, flat Chester and had little nubs and I was staring at myself in the mirror, and I remember questioning everything about being a woman. Is it about my breast? Do I need to have breast to be able to be a woman? You know? Was my womanhood my work? You know? And I remember the confusion, I remember the tears. I remember wondering if I'm enough. And this is at thirteen years old. It don't matter how fast I was faster than the boys. It was how great a basketball player, you know, how far I can throw a baseball, how high I can jump. It did not matter to that at all, because I didn't have boobs that made me feel unworthy of being a woman. And then I want to fast forward a little bit to remember rebuilding my career in the adult industry. I became what I call an infamous household name, you know, across the world. But then watching as I started to transform into this person who I am now, I was being shamed and judged for the choices. In these choices, and it might sound crazy, it gave me power, It gave me a voice, and it gave me my platform. And then I remember standing at fifty three years old, I don't wanna say fifty two and a half years old, looking at the scars from my explant surgery scars I love them now and realizing that every single decision that I made, even the ones that people judged me, brought me here, brought me to this moment, brought me to this healing, brought me to this version of myself that is so free. It is so free. But what it also does, it connects me to everything that I'm doing. The podcast The Season of Self Love asks Naomi, bridging a gap, the book I'm writing, Reclaimed and unashamed, the mission to raise awareness for breast implant illness. All of this is about taking my narrative. You know, always say, don't read a book by his cover. Take the time to read the pages within the book. That's me. You can't just read the cover of my book and say that's what that is. No, baby, there is so many chapters, and that's only one book of many books of my life. But also here's the other truth here is other people's opinions are not your responsibility, that judgments are not your burden to carry. So now what I want to do is I want to reframe it. I want your past to be your power because it is. And I want you, if y'all listening right now, just in this one moment, I want y'all to just say after me, my past is my power. My past is my power. So let's talk about reclaiming versus denial, because there's a huge difference. Denial says that that wasn't me, that wasn't mean, I'm pretending like that never happened, that wasn't me, and reclaiming and reclamation says, oh that was me, And here's what I learned here, who I became because of it. So the thing is that you're not hiding your past. You're reframing it, you're owning it, and you're integrating it. Your past doesn't diminish your present, it informs it. Think about it every lesson, every hardship, every choice that's societ might judge you for those things gave you wisdom, resilience, empathy, and strength. I'm gonna tell you. I'm gonna say this one more time. Everything, everything, every hardship, every choice that society might judge you for. Those things gave you wisdom, resilience, empathy and strength. And in my song Reclaimed and Unashamed, I talk about looking at my reflection at different stages of my life. At thirteen, question in my womanhood, at thirty one, deciding and choosing to get implants in my chest at threes other thirty four, thirty five years old, getting into the adult industry and feeling less than and then at fifty three, finally understanding that all of those verse and so for me were valid, they were necessary, they were divine. And see the difference between shame and wisdom its ownership. I own me, I own this, but shamee says I'm bad, and wisdom say I learned. Now. I want to take you to the DVD principles. We hadn't talked about this in a while, in a long time, and I want to talk about this. And if you knew here and don't know what DVD principles is, it's called decision, visualization and discipline. And I learned this from reading last year. Around this time changed my period I'm changed my life by byproct but I wanted to implement it into the words and the speaking of teachings that I do here on the season and so just in life period, because this is what I implemate into my life to where how I can live and I can reclaim my life every single day. So I have to remember those DVD principles. So let's talk about the decision. When you decide that you want to reclaim your life and be under shame, you have to decide to change. You have to decide to change, and you're deciding to change. That's power, that's agency, that's divine feenom, energy, and action. That is your need to heal and want to heal in action, and you don't need anyone's permission to evolve. So then let's talk about visualization. This is where you see yourself as whole, not broken, not fragmented, not defined by your past, but your whole integrated. When you visualize yourself walk into rooms under shame, health held high because you know your worth. So let me go back and share a story with you all on when I decided to leave the industry, and I remember, and I think I shared this story before. I remember being in my car praying every time I'm on my way to set, and that prayer was, God, please show me when it's time for me to leave. And the reason why I left that industry where I left the industry performing in front of you, because I received the sign. I received the sign and when I decided to do that. I remember my decision like it was yesterday. And in that decision, I told my community, and my community was the people in the adult industry. Was that Urban Ex Awards. I remember I was a co host with myself and Alexander Duvaux. I was a co host, and I remember at one point I was just hiding my pregnancy everybody. Somebody knew it was something going on because I had counsel shoots and everything like that, because I was trying to figure out what I was going to do. And I remember getting on set, getting getting on stage, and it is so funny, devoted even though I was pregnant, and I stood on stage and I remember he was standing right next to me and we were talking and then I was like, you know, I did a Beyonce. I opened up my jacket and put out and just let my stomach show and it was just there. It was, you know, there, and everybody was like, oh my God, like real, this is what's going on. But I knew then it was time for me to leave the industry in that form, in that version of myself there, and it kind of everything kind of set me up because at that time I was still doing Playboy in Series radio, so I was still connected to the adult industry, but I was no longer in front of the camera. And so what that did. It gave me time to heal on heal backstage, if that makes sense. It gave me time to heal because I didn't know what was planned for me, but God knew what he had in store for me and knew that I would have to be able to sit on my on this platform like this and create other platforms for other beautiful souls who need to and want to reclaim theirselves and live theirselves their lives reclaimed and unashamed. So I made that decision, but also through that and going through my healing journey, I had to think about how can I visualize that? Where did the visualization come from with me doing that? And I remember thinking about I think about, you know, creating Chocolate Radio you know, a whole station. I thought about, you know, doing so many of the I created so many different businesses, you know, because that that was my village. Excuse me, my see, that's my brain fag getting to me. You'll have to excuse me. But my visilation, my visulation on what my life was to look like and how it was to be evolved. But I was still wrong. And I don't want to say I was wrong, but I think I was. I was it ain't I think I know that I was limiting myself. And I remember continue to keep myself around in those circles and in that because that's all that I knew in that time, even though I was only actively in that industry for six years. But that's all I knew. That's all I knew is Naomi Banks. So my persona before then, that person before then was gone. And so again when I read that message and that I knew exactly how that person felt. But then again that told me, there is that Naomi girl. You're in the right place, You're doing the right thing. Do you understand This is why this needs to be done? This is why. And then let's talk about the discipline. Discipline is this is the daily work. This is showing up as your highest self, regardless of others narratives, setting boundaries, and honoring your story and refusing to shrink. And let me tell you how I became disciplined. It's when I realized that I can no longer search outside of myself for validation or approval. I can't. I cannot look at other people's values as my values. I cannot look for somebody else's love to define me and my love for self. And I remember sitting asking myself, you know, how do you love yourself? Do you love yourself? What does it take to love you? I remember asking myself that. Then I remember hearing you have to have an intimate relationship with yourself. You have to fall in love with yourself. And that's everything about yourself, your past, your present, and your future, your past relationships, your past, everything, all the good, bad and ugly of it. You have to love all of that. But also you got to figure out why did I go through that, what did I learn from all of that? And how are you going to make that your power? Your super power? So even when this year came around and I said, this is going to be the year the rebirth last year was the year of domination. This year is the year the rebirth. And when I claimed that, I promise you all, I did not know that I was going to remove my implntse that was not in my cards. But once I decided, I made the decision, and then I visualized what I would look like without them. And then the discipline came from self love. It came for what I've been doing here for two years in front of you all, but also what I've been doing for eight or nine years in my closet, at my altar, in my prayers. It's find it out who I am. Who I am. Let's remove all of the names, Let's remove all of the labels, Let's remove all of that. Who am I? What is my purpose? What gives me joy? And I had to go back, like, what gives me joy is giving people advice and helping people, empowering and encouraging inspiring people. When I was a little girl, I said I wanted to change the world. I was laughed at and said, you can't do that, And I thought I couldn't, especially now that I had got up on a camera and was doing a freaking iggy. I thought I couldnot do it, But God showed me something totally different. They say, yes you can, he said, because I need you flawed. I need you flawed so you can stand up there so other flawed people can see you. Because guess what we are are flawed. There's not one perfect person in this world, want not even the little babies that's been born today. One. But it took me some time to learn and understand that. That's because I had to learn and understand who I am, who I am as a spiritual being, who I am as a beautiful soul, who I am as a beautiful person. And you see, I didn't say woman, I didn't say man, I don't say black, I don't say white. I had to go inside of me and heal that. And I want to redefine what unashame, what unashamed means, because it's not arrogance. And I know people say, oh, Naomi, you so you fool and you got it all together, and you this. And you that. I've been told that before. Somebody told me before, you speak very highly of yourself. And I said, why shouldn't I Why should I wait for somebody else to talk highly of me? I'm not about to wait for somebody to give me my flowers when I know the work that I've done, I know what type of person that I am, I know what my characters is. But I also know that when I when I redefine what unashamed is again, I'm not being arrogant, and I'm not being reckless either. And it's not pretending that I'm struggling, because I ain't. That's not it. I'm telling you all. Unasham is being honest. It's being grounded, it's being self aware. It's ownership, and it's saying, yes, that that was me, that would that was me? Yeap. And and I'm not apologizing for my evolution. I'm not apologizing for my growth, and neither ship you. It's something that I say all the time. Never allow anybody to keep you in that box. You know what's that movie called it say? Don't nobody ever put baby in that corner. Don't ever allow nobody to put you in a corner. There are so many, so many multi dimensionals of all of us, all of us, of all of us. I want to try to think about some women throughout history who has reclaimed their narratives. Maya Angelo remember I read somewhere that she was a stripper or a prostitute. And if I'm wrong, please tell me. But it was something. And I saw she was sexually assaulted, and so was Oprah. And these two women in their own communities have been through hell and came out standing in their truth. You got people reciting Maya Angelo's poems. I remember a time they said that she couldn't write, a read or speak. Imagine that. Imagine that. And here's the authenticity advantage of all of that. When you own your story, When you own your stories, others can't weaponize it against you. Your vulnerability becomes your armor, Your truth becomes your power. And perhaps the most beautiful, the most beautiful thing is that you give permission for others to do the same. But I want to say this before I go on to the next segment. Is that you decided to go through this change, You decided to grow, to move on into heal. But when you do that, I won't make sure you do the work. Don't come on these platforms and pretending that's who you are. Go through the work, do the mere look at yourself. But you know what, I got something better, because I'm going to help you with some tools that could possibly help you if you apply them. And this is how to live daily. So we talked about fear, we talked about reframing. Now let's talk practical how do we actually live this out? So the first one is tool number one, call that the narrative rewrite. This is about learning how to tell your story in a way that honors your growth. So this is what I'm gonna do with doctor will say, I don't know if you're at home or wherever you at. I want you to get a piece of paper in a pin as doctor willill saving a purpose paper and purpose pin and needs are I'm giving you four two's to help you to get past these judgments on how to reclaim and undershame your life. So to one, the narrative rewrite again, this is about telling your story. Telling about learning how to tell your story in a way that honors your growth. So here's the framework. This is what you say, I used to and now I So, for example, I used to let other opinions control my choices. Now I trust my own inner guidance. Or I used to hide parts of my past out of shame, Now I share my story to help others heal. And then for me, this is mine. I used to work in an industry that society judge, but that experience taught me about power, boundaries and reclaiming my body as my own. Now I use that wisdom to help women heal from breast implant illness, and I help others to step into their authentic sounds. I help others to search for that inner love that they've been searching for. So you see how that works. So you're not denying your past. You're showing the growth, You're showing the transformation, you're showing the wisdom gained. All right, so too too boundary setting. This is an important one. And here's the hard truth. Not everyone get access to your full story, so you don't owe everyone an explanation. But who gets to know your journey? The people who earned your trust, the people who see you, the people listen to me, the people who celebrate your evolution, whether they're judging your past rather than judging your past, and can I be honest, sometimes the people that was in your circle, closest people, they don't deserve to know that full service. They don't deserve to be there, They don't deserve to be It can be your family members, it can be your closest friends at that moment of your time. But if they're going to continue to bring up and don't see your growth, no, no, no, that's when you have to learn your boundaries. But also when judgment shows up. When judgment shows up, and it will, you have several options that you can do. Several options. You can educate if you have the energy. You can educate them if you had I know, I've done it quite a few times on social media. Or you can redirect them. I appreciate your concern, but I'm at peace with my journey. I've done that too. Or you can simply say that's not my story to defend. I remember on one occasion, it was one I was saying something very positive and someone, oh, I was sharing a story on why I got into the industry, and actually this video kind of went a little viral, and I told her about me get into the industry because I was helping my father, my mother, and my father with his medical and that was the reason why I got into the industry for financial gain for that and I remember looking at a comment it was a bunch of them that said that my father should be ashamed of me. If they were my father, I would kill myself and you know, so many different things. And I remember looking at that, and at a moment I was hurt. But then I had to realize that that's not even my story, you Anderston, what I'm saying, that's not even my story. So people say, well, you know you don't. You would never get married, you would never have any children, you would never be worth anything. But that's not my story. So why would I get mad at that when that's not even my story. That's not my story. So when I thought about that, wait again, that ain't your story. And I'm not going to allow anybody to put that narrative on me. Because here's the thing. I am not on trial. You are not on trial. You are not required to justify your existence, since your choices or your transformation to anyone. Why I choose to do this because I know that this is a part of my purpose. I know that this is a part of my assignment. And I love to encourage and inspire others. I said, I want to change the world, and damn it, I'm going I'm doing it one person at a time. Whoever my community is, I'm able to help them to reframe and redirect their thinking of themselves. And let's go to two three spiritual grounding. This is where I want you to build a daily practice that anchors you in your truth. And hear me out when I say this. I want you to create an ultraspace, even if it's small, even it's a corner of a home in your closet. That's why I started off in my closet. And I want you to place items, items that represent your reclamation. Rather there's photos of yourself at different ages, if you do crystals that affirmation, cars, candles, or even you just writing a letter or words to yourself. All right, But now I want to share three affirmations that I want you to write down and I want you to speak these daily. Number One, I release the need for others approval. My validation comes from within. Two, my past is my power, not my prison. And I am reclaimed. And three, I am woman or I am man, whichever one you are. I am woman or I am man, whole and complete exactly as I am. All right, now, I got some more of y'all because y'all know I'm a colored girl. I believe color. Color is energetically for me, very in y'all see me with this loud red hair, because color is a spiritual practice for me. I use specific colors for healing. Red red is for reclaiming, reclamation, and it's root shakring, grounding, standing firm in your truth. And gold gold is for abundance and my solar plexus power, owning your voice. And then green green is for heart chakra healing, that's of love and compassion. If you was to come into my home, you would see all of those colors, all of those colors because every room that I go in, I want to have that healing feeling. You understand. I wanted to have that grounding feeling, you know. I want to feel that abundance. I want to be able to own my voice and speak and live in my truth. So I want to share this with you. When we talk about chakra focusing, this is what you should be root red stability, stability in your truth, feeling grounded in who you are. That's red, that's your root chakra. The next is green. These are colors that I want you to focus on. Green that's the heart chakra. That is self love, and that's compassion. For listen to what I say. This all versions of your self. And then we're gonna go to the crown chakra right here. That's violent, That is the spiritual alignment that's connected to your higher purpose. In two four, community over judgment. You need people around you who will celebrate your evolution, not people who would keep you tied down to your past. Even those people that try to sneak diss you, you have to remove them from out of your circle. Find people, build your circle, create spaces well. Vulnerable storytelling is ourn nerved because when you stand in your truth, you create a ripple effect. You encourage. You encourage gives people permission to be courageous. Your courage does that. That is what encouraging means in your freedom, your freedom gets permission to be free. Again, I tell you when I received that DM, and I get lots of dms, but this one stood out to me. So now we want to go to the deeper truth. What is this really all about? Because it isn't just about personal healing. This is systematic, right, and we're about to go here as women, I'm a woman, As a woman, as women past, we are scrutinized differently than again our men partners and a man and with a colorful history, has experience, his complex interesting. But a woman, a woman with a past, is damage. It's questionable, it's less than it's unworthy. But all of this, right now, all of this, everything that I'm speaking today, it connects directly to my advocacy work, whether it's raising awareness about breast implant illness, about supporting sex workers, standing with abuse survivors, all of this is about women reclaiming agency over their narratives. So when you take control of your story, when you refuse to let others define you, that is an act of resistance. So let me talk about the rebirth concept, because it's not about starting over, it's about evolving. I remember a few weeks ago a friend of mine came by and we sat around and he said, you don't think you've changing, And I said, no, I've always been this way. I said, I'm just I'm just becoming a better version of who I've already am. And I don't think he understood exactly what that means. And it's like, I'm not a racing anything of who I am or what I was or what I did, because that is what created this whole amazing thing of me. It is my past. It is what I went through, but also is what I've taken from that. And I learned from that, and I do things differently. I grow, I don't stay stay the same, because again, I'm not a racing of who I am. So you're not a racing who you are. You're integrating them. You're having conversations between your past self and your present self, and you're allowing them to coexist so you can make this amazing become this amazing person that's gonna do some amazing things out in this world. So at thirteen, I was questioning my womanhood. At thirty one, I begin to build a career in the entertainment industry that Society Letter tried to shame me for. And at fifty three, I removed my impluse that was destroying my body and I reclaim my original form. All of those versions of me are still here. I'm gonna say it again, all of those versions of me are stier here. They're in conversations, they're in the building, They're in the building the legacy that I'm creating. So through this podcast, through the book, Reclaim that un a shame Coming. October fourteen, twenty twenty six, twenty twenty six through events in community that I'm giving other women, other men, other couples permission to be reclaimed and unashamed. That's the empowerment ripple affecting action. One woman stands up and say, I refuse to be ashamed, and then another woman sees that and she thinks, maybe I don't have to be ashamed either, and then it spreads. This is how we change the narrative, not just individually, but collectively. So let me bring this all home with y'all today, so your past, your past doesn't define you your choices today. To reclamation is an act of self love and spiritual alignment. Unashamed is a choice that you make every single day. The person who sent me that, DM, I want to thank you. I want to thank you so much for sending that to me, because that gave me the nudge too do this episode. But also to everyone else that's listening, who's carrying this fear. I see you, and I see you, I honor you, and I want you to know that your past, that your past is not a liability. That is your superpower. Man. As I am sitting here right now, I remember a beautiful loved one of mine, one of my favorites, and I remember talking to him about he had this some time in prison for a few years, and I remember talking to him about, let's create you a blog, and let's talk to those those young boys of those men that have been through the prison system and give them some encouragement to let them know your story, you know, because you just don't know who you might hear and you might hit that could resonate, that might give them a different perspective on what their life is today, that might help them to move further along in their life. So, even though I said a lot about women today, this is not just about a woman thing. This is about a human being thing, about a person thing. This is about someone who has made a choice in their life in that season of their life that they shouldn't always have to be at that season. They shouldn't always have to be at that chapter that it's time to turn the page. It's time to close that book and open up another book. It's time to open up another book. It's time to turn that page and start a new chapter. What a way to close out this Step in into Authenticity series? Huh? I mean, we journey together this month and I am so grateful for each and everyone who has been walking this path with me. I thank you for each and every one of our guests this month. Now next week, we're starting something new. We started something so beautiful in our new series, and it's called Giving Back the Power of Service and Community, and we're going to explore on how serving others become a pathway to our own healing, and how community transforms us, and how your gifts are meant to be shared with the world. And I want to invite you all to just share your reclamation stories with me, send me a DM or leave me a comment, or just join the community. But let's build this movement together. And I want you to mark your calendars. He claimed it unashamed. The book. This is not a work book. This is the book. It drops October fourteenth of twenty twenty six. The next year. Oh and I have some more exciting news and I can't wait to share it because I had some more things to do. But we're locking it down. The Unstoppable, the Unstoppable Radical Transformation Toward is kicking off in twenty twenty six. We're bringing this message to five cities, five cities, and our first stop is right here at home. Here in Las Vegas. We're looking at April and May. We just got to get the dates locked down with the venue and this is going to be a very powerful and transformative and I cannot wait to connect with you people in person. I cannot wait for that, and more details will be coming soon, so I want you to stay tuned. But for now, I'm going to leave you with this song that inspired the whole entire episode. Along with that alone with that DM this is Reclaimed un a shame from my soundtrack soundtrack of the Rebirth album, and let these words watch over you. I want to thank you again and remember to always love yourself. Oh that's beginning, that thirteen year old reflection in the mirror, searching for the woman that SenseID on me, questioning does my out of woman have to match mine? And a woman as mother Nature has visited me? Ow many are you occasion? Just to let me know my warma? The pear's reflection? Help is something different? Is there a choice? Do I have a voice? And what truly makes me your warma? Is it just a thirty one year old woman saying a reflectional that's thirteen years old? Girl, Let's run down. Nor woman can't here for to chow and I've done that. Why so why am I surely live? Reclbodybody, my choice is marmo Is I am Warma's holly complic. Reclaim a shame. I'm fun. Let's fastballward career resalmazy. My womanhood is made of them from my household name for the let's not laugh too loud. That's the world trying to shame me head again. From my decision. But they don't understand that this path was a part of my journey at the same as. A vessel of God in the service of the others. That's a name that once was looked at a shame. I'm here to reclaimed both the name of. My authentic self and my original woman. Somebody with my boy scream loud read name. It's all a shame. So I stand looking at my fifty three year old body. Time said, I love the decision I made in my prey. Soon define me as a mother nor my woman. I'm the last one, Lord form. Now take a. Boys, my boy by a woman. Recla a shame. I'm good free. Thank you so much for joining me today on this journey of intentional healing. I hope that this conversation has filled your cup and reminded you of the beautiful and worthy person that you are. I want you to remember healing isn't about rushing. It's about showing up for yourself with love in intention, one day at a time. So I'll see you back here Monday and Wednesday for another episode of the Season of Healing Intentionally right here on the Season of Self Love podcast. So until then, keep choosing you and visit us at the Season of Self Love podcast dot com for show notes and resources, and remember to connect with me on Instagram at the real Naomi Banks. This has been brought to you by Aks Naomi and elevating Me self Discovery because your healing matters. You are loved, you are worthy, and you are exactly where you need to be. Take care of