Honoring Relational Space: The Sacred Ground Between Us | Season of Self Love"

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I am your host Namubanks, and I am truly truly excited that you are tuning in today as we continue our journey through our main theme of nurturing relationships. What a powerful week it has been so far. On Monday, doctor Will and I we broke down the foundations of healthy relationships, reminding us that healthy relationships happens when two individual people are actively working on being healthy and decide to share an experience together. Then on Tuesday, I shared the Real Time lesson about boundaries that showed us on how important it is to honor our limits, even when it was people who we care about. And yesterday we had that amazing Leslie Lindsay Davis talking about boundaries and self love, teaching us that the first boundary that we need to establish in order to really love ourselves is the boundary with ourselves. Well, today, I want to build on all of these powerful conversations by focusing on what I call the sacred space between us. This is that it invisible but very connective energy that exists in every relationship, not just within us but within others, but in that shared field we create together. So before we dive in, I want to remind you that May it's also Mental Health Awareness Month, and I'm excited about this theme because and turn awareness into action. This aligns perfectly with our work here, excuse me, with our work here as well as over there at acts Naoma Rigiting Gap podcasts as well. You know, we're talking about relationships, so we're actively working to transform them through mindful awareness and intentional action. But for now, let's take a quick break and when we come back, we'll ground ourselves and get into today's powerful conversation. All right, it's security, God, it's not your Banks here own this Seasons of Love Podcasts and would be right back. Join us this May for a groundbreaking series that bridges the gap between love and mental wellness. 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Then now exhale gently through your mouth. Now let's repeat that now when you in hell, I want you to inhale connection, and I want you to exhale separation. Now I want you to visualize the relationships in your life that matters most to you. See them now, not just as connections. To other people, but as sacred spaces that exist between you. These spaces are living, breathing fields of energy that can be nurtured or neglected, expanded or contracted. Now, with each breath, I want you to envision these relational spaces becoming clearer, more vibrant, You're more sacred. I want you to notice how these spaces don't separate from you from others, but they actually connect you in profound ways. Now, take one more deep breath in. Filling these relational spaces as they expand within and around you. And when you are open, ready Gillie, open your eyes and carrying this awareness with you. All right, my beautiful people, if you are new here too, This is in a Cephala podcast. This mindful moment is something we do every day Monday through Friday, just to help ground us before we get into the top of command. All right, So today's topic, and let's talk about honoring the space between us and our relationship. You know, often we think about relationships, we focus on the people involved, what I need, what they need, and how we can communicate better. But there's something powerful about shifting our perspective to consider the relationship itself as a third entity that needs its own kind of care. And we talked a little bit about this last last Thursday, you know, on this excuse me. You know, I was really struck by something that Leslie Lindsey David said yesterday about teaching people how to treat us. She said, she said, we teach people on how to treat us through our words, in our actions, through our words and our actions. And it got me thinking about how the space between us that relates feel is actually shaped by what we bring to it. Well, you think about a relationship that feels really good in your life right now, when you're with that person, there's probably a sense of ease, a flow of mutual respect right well, this space between you feels clean, clear and expansive. Now, think about a relationship that feels strained or difficult. That space might feel cluttered or constricted or even heavy same you different relational space. And on Monday, doctor Will talked about how relationships need two people who are actively, actively working on being healthy. I think that's because when we're doing our own healing work, we can bring a different quality of energy to that relational space. We bring clear instead of confusion, we bring peace instead of chaos, and we bring authenticity instead of performance. And this ties directly in what I shared on Tuesday about the real time experience with my friend where we crossed into a political territory, which is a boundary for me. And what made that conversation difficult wasn't just that we disagreed. It was that the sacred space between us became charged with judgment and defensiveness. You see, that energy between us shifted from connection to contention. You know, when I look at that interaction, I realized that I realized that honoring that relational space what I meant both of us recognizing when that space was becoming unhealthy and consciously choosing to shift the energy. Maybe that would have meant changing the subject or taken a pause, or approaching the topic with more curiosity and less certainty. You see, when we honor the relational space, we're not just respecting the other person, but we're respecting the unique connection that exists between us. So we're saying this relationship matters enough to me that I want to tend to it like a garden, removing the weeds of misunderstanding and plenty seeds of trust in mutual respect. Now you might be wondering what does honorary relational space actually look like in practice? Well, here are some ways that I've learned to do in my own life versus that I bring a mindful awareness to the quality of the energy in your intentions. So I want you to notice when the space between you and another person feels like light versus heavy, when it feels light versus heavy, or if the open the open verses are constricted, when life given versus energy draining, when that conversation is no longer life giving but it's now energy draining. I want you to notice all of that. When that open conversation feels like it's now constricted, when that light conversation has now become heavy. I want you to notice those things, and with this awareness alone, it can transform on how you show up. I want you to take responsibibility for the energy that you bring to the relational space. So before entering an important conversation, I want you to pause and I want you to ask yourself, what quality of presence do I want to bring to this interaction. This doesn't mean being fake or suppressing your authentic feelings. It means being intentional about how you show up. Third, I want you to create a ritual that honors the relationship itself. Like, for instance, my husband and I I have this practice where every Sunday we sit down together with our journals. We write separately about our thoughts and feelings and then we feel comfortable, and when we feel comfortable, we will share them with each other. This simple relation, this simple rituals become a way of saying our relationship deserves dedicated time and attention. And fourth is to recognize when the relational spacece need clearing. When it needs clearing, Just like a physical place can get cluttered, the energy between people can accumulate misunderstandings, spoken resentment, old patterns. Sometimes we need to consciously clear those spaces through honest conversation, forgiveness, or just simply pressing the reset button. And finally, we celebrate celebrate the unique beauty of each relational space in your life. Every connection has its own special quality, its own purpose, its own gifts. And when we honor what's unique about each relationship, instead of comparing them or trying to make them all the same, we allow them to flourish in their own way. You see. I remember a beautiful conversation I had with the mentor years ago, and I was feeling frustrated that a particular friendship wasn't meeting all of my needs. And I remember my mentor saying something like, I'll never forget. Every relationship has its own purpose. Every relationship has its own purpose. Some friends out there for deep conversations, others for laughter and play, others for practical support. So when you honor the unique purpose of each of your relationships, instead of expecting one person to be everything, you free both yourself and the other person to show up authentically. That wisdom completely shifted how I approach relationships. So instead of me thinking what's wrong with this relationship? Was wrong with this person? I started asking myself what's the unique gift or purpose of this connection? Why are we connected? One? I used to say? What is the mirroring imaging of one another? What am I to learn from this about myself and how can I honor what it is instead of wishing it or something else. You see, with this approach, it has been especially powerful in my relationship with my husband, he said. We've been together for over twenty years, and our relationship has involved through so many seasons before, during, and after my adult industry career, and now through my spiritual awakening over the past few years. Through all of these changes, we learn to honor the sacred space between us, allowing it to transform while still maintaining is core essence now, as Leslie Lindsay Davis reminded us yesterday, is that the way that we speak to, the way we think about, and the way we treat ourselves needs to be so powerful that when that when we are dealing with others and when we're dealing with the world, the world sees the boundary that we have with him, and they know what we will and when we will not accept. You know, I believe the same is true for how we treat the relational space. When we honor it with intention and care, you know, others naturally sense that sacredness and then respond accordingly. So here's my invitation to you today. I want you to choose one relationship in your life where you want to where you want more consciously to honor that space between you. It could be with a partner, a family member, a friend, or even a colleague. I want you to notice the current quality of the relational space. Is it cluttered or is it clear? Is it constrictive or is it expansive? Is it life giving or is it energy draining. Then I want you to identify one small action that you can take to honor that space. Maybe it's initiating a heartfel conversation, or maybe it's creating a ritual of connection. Maybe it's simple bringing more mindful presence to the next time that you all are together. But whatever it is, approach you with the understanding that you're not just doing something nice for other person, that you're tending to the sacred ground that exists between you. I want you to remember, my beautiful people, relationships don't just happen to us. They are co created moment by moment, through our intentions, through our actions, through the quality of presence that we bring. So by honoring that relational space, we create the conditions of authentic connections to flourish. All Right, so tomorrow, on Freedom Friday, we explore how the ultimate freedom comes from loving ourselves enough to create and maintain healthy relation of relational boundaries. You definitely won't want to miss it, and don't forget to join us next Monday, when Doctor Will and I are talking about the trend information, power, forgiveness, and our relationships. That's going to be a powerful conversation that you identify that you want to be a part of. Now, if this episode has resonated with you, please share it with someone who might benefit, And as always I love hearing from you, so leave a review or comment about how these conversations are touching your life. So until tomorrow, I want to remember the space between us is sacred ground, and as I uttered this space with love and intention, my relationships blown again. I'm gonna thank you so much for joining me here on the Season and Self Love Podcast. Have an amazing day. 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