Embrace New Beginnings | Wisdom Wednesday w/ Zulma Williams

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Well, it is Wisdom Wednesday and I am your host, Namibanks, and it's officially twenty twenty five. We like d in it. We have a few weeks up under our belt now a year where we are calling the year of Rebirth. This month, we're diving deep into the theme of new beginnings, a very powerful reminder that every moment holds the potential to start fresh. We write our stories and embrace growth. Well today, I am. Beyond excited to have a truly inspiring guests join us, someone whose story embodies resilience, transformation in the beauty of starting anew. The Swearing Therapists. Miss Zomo Williams is a social worker, trauma therapist, and a warrior in every sense of the word. From immigration to us, from Buenos Aires at the age of thirty one to overcoming life's greatest adversities. She's here to share her journey and inspire us to our inner warriors. But before we dive in, let's. Take a quick break, and then when we return, we're gonna bring this Swearing Therapist. To the full front. 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Just make sure you tune me at Thursday ninety six pm, six cent of time. Go to exdiam dot com and tell them Miami Sea. All right, my beautiful people, will welcome back to this season and of love. Today we're talking about embracing the beginnings, a journey, a rebirth with Zoma Williams. Hi. Mus Williams Hi, thank you for having me in such an honor. Yeah, it's I know, This is going to be a very informative but fun show. I already know it, Yes, I already know it. But before we dive into let's just take a quick moment just to center ourselves before we we get in hand, just to guide ourself. All right, my beautiful people, if you just find a comfortable position, close your eyes. All right, let's take a deep breath in, a nice intentional breath together in hell, feeling yourself with light, strength, impossibility. Now exhale, really, sing anything that no longer serves you, fear, doubt. Or hesitation. As you continue to breathe, envision yourself stepping into a new chapter, the space of hope and self love. Take one more tay breath in and out, and when you are ready, gently open your eyes and carry this and sur grounding into today's conversation. All right, my beautiful people. If you are new here to the Season and Stuff Love podcast, this is something that we do every day Monday through Friday, here right here, just to help ground ourselves before we get into the top of him. I write, our beautiful people, I am so honored to reintroduce her again, Miss Zoema Williams. She's a powerhouse of resilience, wisdom. Zema's journey is a testament of the strength of our human spirits. So I'm gonna read you some of the things that this woman has done, because it was amazing when I saw your profile and I said, I have to have her on on. At thirty one, she left Buenos Aires for the United States, just embarking on a new life field with challenges and opportunities. But despite facing abusive relationships, mental health struggles, and even a battle with breast cancer, Zoma refused to give up. She found her calling as a social worker, earned her degree later in life, and now serves others through her work at Dragonfly Therapy, specializing in trauma and anxiety and depression. Zoma, Zoma, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you for having me such a wonderful introduction and that meditation is on point you got. I'm like, okay, let's do it, beautiful. I love it. I love it. You know you just being a beacon of hope for many. Let's start with your story. I know I read a little bit, but what drove you to pursue a career in social work and dedicate to our life to helping people? Absolutely so, as you said. I moved to the United States at thirty one, and I was working in the accounting department of a big corporation and I was like, I don't think I want to do this for another twenty five years. And I always had this passion for helping others, and I had people come to me and told me that, oh my God, like I never told this to any guy. So I was like, okay, well, let's start charging for that. So I put myself. I started my Bachelor of Social Work at age forty two while I was still working in accounting, and I. Graduated at forty six. I was on track to do my Masters of. Social Work and then six weeks after I graduated with my bachelor's, I was in Northwood breast cancer. So God was like, okay, just give it. I have other plans for you. So I took a break from higher education to take care of myself, and then I moved back to Argentina to be close to my family, and I was like, oh, fuck it, I'm better. I'm moving back to the States. And I came back in twenty fifteen and I was like a few weeks shy of my fiftieth birthday and that's when I started my Masters of Social Work. So needless to say, I was the mom and grandma for the class, right, Like my classmates were twenty three twenty five. So they kept me young. They were teaching me all about Instagram and social media, and I brought the life experience to the classroom, not only to the classroom, but also to my office. I graduated a year later, and then I started my internship. I became independently license at fifty three and a half, which. Allows me need to have my own private practice. As a social worker. There are other disciplines that you can have your own private practice when you're an intern, but not as a social worker, so you need to be in the penally license. So I became in the Penola license and I was working in community mental health. And I will tell my supervisors like, oh, I don't this is my specialty. I like to work with people with trauma and anxiety and depression. And. I don't like working with couples. And here comes a couple because I was the only one who spocused Spanish, and I'm like, my fucking problem, like, get more of my doing one terface right, Like, So I grew tired of not being her, and I was like, okay, I think I'm being like I'm being pushed out. Of community mental health. And that's when I started Dragonfly Therapist Services, and I serve adult population who experience trauma, anxiety and the passion, and I bring my altentive self I do. I'm just swearing therapist because I swear when I'm having a client in front of me and with me that is not like, oh, I'm not sure about you. Either love me or you hate me. You can't understand me, and I'm fine either way. But the clients that I connect with, they love me because that is a huge part of the therapeutic relationship. If we don't click, you're not going to open up. And if you don't open up, I cannot help you. But my job as a therapist. Is I can fucking badly deal with my own life. Literal, I'm telling you what to do with yours. My job as a therapist is to provide a different perspective and help you find your own answers. So I might be the therapist, but you are the expert in your own life. Yeah. Yeah, I love that, you know. First of all, I love. That you're bringing you. You know, you're bringing you with the extra, and the extra is that you are a therapist. The extra is the education, but you are bringing you first into that conversation. And what it does for me it allows. A person to bring down those walls and bring up of trust because now you're showing me your faiths and not a mask. So I absolute yeah, yes, and. You know and I keep it with you all. That's why I I'm not gonna shoot there. No, I'm gonna say ship right aside. No, I'm gonna say fun that. Don't come to me with. An old duol. I understand that. My master said, like in English is my first languageuse right like? So, really, my ideal client is a self motivated individual who wants to get better. I don't have life is too fucking short. I don't have time to. Oh, let's see if you there are other therapists for that. So if you are not ready to hit the round, to hit the ground running, I'm not. The therapist for you. And that's fine. That's the beauty of this because there are so many therapists, You're going to find your own match. But the thing is a lot of therapy is a lot of work. And it's hard work. But if you are not ready to do the work. We are not going to go anywhere. I call myself the GPS passenger, right like you are driving the car. If you don't turn around the ignition, we are not moving and we are not going to get to the destination. I love that. I love that whole thing that you just you just said right there, and even you saying that, And I think a lot of the listeners are going to resonate with this and pull it and for because this this year is all about rebirth. Last year we had an incredible year. It was a year of the domination, but we learned quite a few things through our transformation. And if you. Notice, every every month is a new series. This is a new beginning. And I love how your story, where we follow your story, is that you you did start anew, but you started anew several different times through resilience to transformation. But then to say that at fifty years old, I started back, you know, I got a degree at fifty three. I did this at you know, so it's. Never too late, you know, absolutely never too late, and you're exactly the example of that. And so I first of all, I thank you. I thank you because I needed this in real time for people to see it, not just for me, because for me, I am a new you know, I'm coming out of one career and coming into another, you know, space and place. But then hearing someone else's story or I say language, hearing your language enable to come from not only you were to accountant, then here, then you battled with cancer, then you had to go back home and then come back and knowing that people will say that you had a handicap of not having English as your first language. Do you. So it's like, we have no more excuses. This is with this, this is with this, we have. None more seriously, and this is and I'm so honored to be on your show because this. Is about rebirth. Right Like if I was like I was good with numbers, but I was like, I really, I don't know if I want to do this. For another twenty five years, So let me follow my as. The worst that can happen is that. Social work doesn't work. So I can always go back to do accounting. But how would I know if I don't start again, right, Like, if I don't try it and the thing is okay? So I graduated and then I'm saying like, hey, I'd rather work with this population and not this and I'm not being her, So okay, well, I guess I will to start my own thing because people are not listening. So the idea is that the listeners and be inspired to like read even the way where they. Are standing, and they can. Start building without destroying. We don't need to destroy. These I was in school while I was still doing accounting. We don't need to erase everything in. Order to start new. We can start building. They knew what was still being where we are, so it's not about like, oh I had to destroy everything. No no, no, no, no, you start where you are, but with the idea of like, I'm gonna do better. Yes, I started doing podcasts at fifty nine, like what the fuck? Right? I was like, I got a message and I want to inspire people. So it's like and here I am right. Like. So the thing is that sometimes we believe that oh my god, like im I invested so much in this that I don't want to start again. And I always so if if I ask you, like, okay, please invest a million dollars in dragon Fly therapy services, it's gonna give you a return on investment of three million dollars and you start putting money down and you don't see the return on investment, are you going to continue to put the money down or you're going to be like, okay, gold on one second, like this is. My money and I'm not seeing it. We invested our time, which we are. Now going to get a back. So why are we going to continue to invest our time in something that we are not seeing the return? Or because I invested fifteen years, okay, but are you going to invest another fifteen years so you can be frustrated another fifteen And it's the best time to plant a new tree was twenty years ago. The next best time is today. Yes, So if you didn't plan. The three twenty years ago, planet today, you're just see in twenty years you're going to see the three exactly. But if you don't don't take action, you are going to remain where you are. And if you are happy, that's fine. But life doesn't have a remote control. We had to get out unchange it. I love that. I love that this follows what I call the DVD principles. It's something that I'm teaching this year with every series and where I got this from, and I'm gonna be very honest. We were reading we had a ten day challenge of Change your Paradigm, Change your Life by Bob Parker. Oh my god, Yes, that amazing book. And in that book it was one thing that Bob Parcic says that you truly want to be successful. Successful people they do these three things. They do They make a decision, They understand what visualization is in discipline, and so those when I think about self love, when I think about self love and you having that intimate relationship with yourself, you have to make that decision to say what it's about me right now, I have to do what's best for me in this moment right now, to decide what's best for my life. But lid only that, but those that is around me. So then when you go to visualization, then it's now just looky or what you want your life to be. And then discipline. So let me say this from your story that you just told you just gave us the DVD principles. When you decided as you were still working, when you were still working, to say no, I'm would go. To school, I'm fool. That was one. But then to come back when you're working at a job and saying I don't want that because I can't speak they language. Not saying that she don't speak Spanish, but y'all know what the language that I'm talking about. I don't want to deal with couples. I don't want to deal with this. I don't want to deal with that. So if I want to be able to do what I want to do, let me quit and create my own. That's another decision. But not only is that decision, then that's understanding visualization. Now she is a vision of what her future and what it would look like. Baby, let me tell you somethings is right now, you have just blewe this whole thing. Up for my life. I'm telling you. I'm telling you because I created this year is the first time that I ever did. Usually I do an e book. This time, I created a work book that's going to follow the whole thing everything for six months. It just dropped today and so and one of the things that called podcast podcast Connection, And I bet you that this episode is going to be one of the favorites. Give you three favorite episodes. Three and I'm saying it right now, three favorite episodes that you resonated with, and I guarantee you they're going to say this episode. I guarantee you they're going to sing this because. That you were speaking. I'm like, oh my god, if this is not the DVD principles, if this is not pepemicity, if this is not a line, if we are not on that hypdreak. Oh yes, And let me say this because a lot of times people say, oh, I'm not motivated. Motivation is overrated. You have done ship that you are not motivated to do your entire. Life, especially if you have children. You don't tell the baby that, yeah, you know, I'm. Not motivated to feed you. Sorry, come back tomorrow. You fucking get up and you feed the baby, and you change the diaper, you go to work although you don't like it or whatever. Right, So motivation is overrated. We have done shit that we will not motivated to do our entire lives. So I tell everybody you just have to become Nike and just do it. And I hear you. I hear you. I hear you, because if you don't do it, who will? Who will? Right? So I my mother is I had cancer, didn't have me? And we can use that for any. Challenge that we are facing. Everybody who you, all the listeners, we have one hundred percent track record of success. How do I know? Because you are here. All the that you've been through in your life could not take you out, So why will. This particular challenge be different? Exactly? Right. So it's like, yeah, cancer came to wake me up and rearrange my priorities. I was at the bottom of the list, very very common for women, right, Like, oh, we put everyone else first, and. We cannot give from an anty vessel. So we have to be at the first priority because if I don't take care of me, I cannot take care of you. Exactly. So when I take care of me, I become a better person, a better partner, a better therapist, a better daughter, a better sister, a better friend, a better whatever. Because I'm taking care of me. This is not selfish, this is necessary. Beautiful, beautiful. I love this. I am smiling from ear to. Earwork now, like yes, like what I tell you, The frequency is high, things are aligned, secreticity, just everything. It's just boo boo boo boo boom boo boom, it's just lining up so well. And I love it. And I love it. So let me ask you this question, because you know you've been through a lot of resilience, and it's remarkable. What role DoD self love play in your transformation. Absolutely so, I had to love myself in order to put myself first. I couldn't continue to be at the bottom of the list. And and when I made a decision that I was going to fight for my life, right, and that is the ultimate self love decision because I could have not done my treatment. I could have start in the corner and cry and wait to die, right, But I was like, no, I'm going to. Take this opportunity to rediscover. Myself and to put myself first. And there is a lot of stigma about Oh so you think that you are all that? And that's when I start realizing that this is this is a necessity that I have to love myself in order to take care of myself. And in order to love myself, I had. To start looking in the mirror and discovering who I am. You cannot love someone who you don't. Know, Yeah, right, Like, so who is this person? And and and what can we move forward with? And what can we are going to live in the past but without blaming. I cannot. I cannot ask my thirty year old version to know the ship that I know now twenty right, nine years later. Right like, so, oh well, why did I do that? Because that was the best I could have done, such an information that I have. So when you know better, you do better. Yes, right, Like, So we start. By embracing the person in the mirror and start saying I love you. And it's so fucking weird and and and you don't believe it. But if you continue to look at yourself into your eyes. In the mirror and say I love you, and this is Louise hey, uh that was her life teaching, right, like, just love yourself and remind yourself that everything. Is working for your your own good. So at the time when we are going through. Challenges, we don't we don't. It's like God, like, I know you you you don't give me anything that I cannot coggle, but Ship, you confuse me with rumble like there another lot of factors. That you can give ship too, like. You know what I mean. But then I look back and I'm. Like, oh, everything was in divine time, I mean, yes, right, So because of those challenges, I am who I am today. Yeah, So I wish I could have fucking learned from watching other people, but some of us we had to go through the ship in order to learn. But the three there is this analogy that I love. The orange tree gives produces the oranges for other people to have. The tree doesn't consume the oranges. Right, So my challenges were not for me to consume. They were to be transformed so that other people can learn and be inspired, because it's like, oh. Share, why am I going through this? It's not for me, yes, to inspire others that hey, fucking insum, I. Fucking did it. I can do it too, Yes, yes. And how I've done it twelve years following on a twelve years One day at a time, one treatment at a time, one doctor appointment at a time, one test at a time. Right, So how do we do anything really is one day at a time. So when anxiety kicks in and say, oh my god, I cannot do this the rest of my life, it's like, okay, come back and back. Come back. Can you do this for today? Can you? Can you go to this doctor appointment? Can you say I love you ten times today? And then if one day is too long, you just do it fifteen minutes at a time. Can you do this for fifteen the next fifteen minutes, Well, yeah, I can do that. Well four of those make one hour, and. Twenty four of those make one day, and seven of those make one week, and so on and so forth. So when in the midst of like, oh my God, like I don't know how to love myself, can you look in the mirror and say I love you right now? That's the first step, and then you continue, you rinse and repeat. You continue to do that shit, and you eat better and you excess, and you move your body and you do whatever it is that you need to do, and you allow yourself. So I don't I personally don't have children, But those of you who have children, if your child, God forbid, if your child has an emergency, you're going to drop everything and take care of your child. So how about you take care of you the same way? O, Because I don't have time right like, I'm too busy doing other shit. But if your child needs you, you're going to drop everything. And take care of your child. So how about we take care of Suma, the child version of Sulma that fucking needs me right now? And then and then go from there. So we don't have the time, but we have. To make the time because it is so who has time to exercise? Right, But we make the time. We walk whatever. Who has time to mil prep? But we we. Take care of bed? Who has time to help the kids with fucking homework? But we figured it out right, So it's like, can we figure it? Can we squeeze in fifteen minutes in the morning or in the middle of the day or at night before bed so that we can start getting to know ourselves and building this love relationship, Because how I'm gonna love you if I don't know who the fuck you are? Right, beautiful? I love that you know. I love the way that you you turn your pain into purpose. And I know even throughout you telling your story, you had said some of the lessons that you you know that you practice through every day. But just in case my listeners miss that, how do you use those lessons that you practice every day? How do you use. Those Absolutely to remind myself again that if I have one hundred percent track record of being successful at overcoming the challenges, so whatever challenge I am confronting right now, I will overcome this one too, Yeah, because life gets in the way, right, Like, so I don't have all the answers. Like I've been going through some challenges at the end of twenty twenty four and I'm like, oh, you're a fucking hypocrate, like telling people to you know, you want to inspire them, and then you forgotten. And I was like, okay, wait a minute. I'm fucking human. So in those moments, I have to listen to my podcasts and listen to the message because I forget right, some human And it's like, okay, well, if I'm telling people that I overcame cancer. Which is true right here, I am. And cancer didn't have me, then why I am allowing this challenge to have me? So I had to reverse that. So I taken a step back. I bring God into the question. I'm like, okay, Laura, you put me into this and you can't just take me out of it. It's like, I can't do it by myself. And then just keep pushing one day at a time. So if I if you told me, like, oh my God, like you know, I personally I don't like exercise. So I started to walk thirty minutes every day, which to me is a huge accomplishment because that's not something that I'm ready to do. Right to the person who get ups at five o'clock. In the morning to go to the gym, more power to you. I mean. So every time that I step on that walking pad, I'm like, okay, this is thirty minutes that you are adding to yourself here. And I take my phone and I'm scrawling through Instagram while I'm walking. But I could I was scrawling through Instagram sitting in my reclientent that this is an accomplishment, right. So in focusing into the little victories is important because I'm not going to run a marathon. That's not who I am. But to me, to other people, walking thirty minutes is nothing, but to me. It's a huge deal. Beautiful. I love that. So recognizing those little victories. Helps you to focus more on the blessings not so much on what we are lacking. Right, And so, oh, I didn't get to the top of the mountain yet, But if you so, here's the top of the mountain, and you were down here, now you are here. So yes, yeah, you know. Where you want to be, but as far as you keep moving, you're going to get there. The important thing is to now get stuck. So again I had to remind myself it is only you're going to do it thirty minutes today. You don't have to worry about the rest of your life. You might talk talking direct. I want to talk tonight. I don't need to worry about the thirty minutes and I'm walking tomorrow because I'm not going to make it right. That's what anxiety is. It's about trying to control the future, which. Is impossible because the future. Is not even here. So I cannot start thinking about like, oh my god, I had to walk the rest of my life. I'm just taking care of the thirty minutes today. That's all what I need to be concerned about. Did I walk the thirty minutes today? And if I haven't, can I do it right now or make the time to do it and then tomorrow read sut repeat right. So but I am not planning like if you would have told me, oh my god, like you have to do this treatment, because at the beginning, the treatment was I had to go to the hospital every three weeks and see the doctor every month, and then it. Was every three months, and then it was a real sick. Oh okay, Si, okay, like you know, I can handle this. But if you think about all the appointments at once, and. All the appointments will happen at once, Yeah. They happen. Maybe if you're lucky you have two appointments on the same day, but usually it's one appointment a day, and you might have three or four in a week, but it's not every week, So it's okay. You just take one appointment at a time. So what is it that you are looking forward to becoming? And then you start taking the steps to become that person. So we tell our children, like, yes, I believe in you. You can do what you can do and be whatever you want to be if you have the discipline to do it. Okay, we're not different about our children. So you can do it too, if you have the discipline, if you have the vision and you take the action, you have the discipline to do it. And again, we do a lot of fucking shit that we don't want to do. So why not. Take maybe one hour out of the day to study investing in the future version of yourself? Yes, and then you make it an hour and a half and then you make it too out and whatever you again, like you don't have to destroy your person in order to build your future. You can start where you are and take the steps to build that future. My future today. Started when I was when I took English one oh one on my bachelor's because without English one oh one, I will I wouldn't have graduated, right, So I started building in this future in two thousand seven. With that first class, right, and three credits at a time, I graduated, and then I took care of my house. But then three credits at a time, I completed my masters and one appointment at the time I completed my internship right. So at the time it was overwhelming. It was a lot, but. I always kept in mind, I will be fifty one, So I started as fifty. I graduated at fifty one. Right, I will be fifty one with or without a master's degree, because the time will go will pass. Right, So you're going to be seventy working towards the life. Of your dreams, or you're going to be seventy in that accounting job hating it every day of the seventy The. Decision is yours again, like nobody's gonna do it for you. And I got a secret. You have to get up and do yourself. I had a secret for all our listeners. People are professors at the university level. They love all the students. Because they know you're there because you want to be Yeah now, because dad is paying for the tuition, like I was, do it all the homework, re need every one of the traffic. I'm not paying for this, you know what I mean. And professors love all the students because they know we are there because we really want this. Yeah, so take take three credits. At the time, I don't care. But it's but do it. Take that class, do that podcast, be a guest, be a host. By the way, bless your card for beuse. There's a lot of work. Like I'm I'm not I'm not ready to do all that work. I'll you guess for now. Becoming a podcast. It's a lot of work. But because you are passionate about it, you do it right. It's like, whatever it is, take that dancing class. It doesn't who who the fuck cares? Just do it. Just do it. I want it, I'm doing it. Anybody can. Just do it. I love that, beautiful says. I love that so much. And as I am listening to everything, that you are saying what I hear is be in the present moment. Absolutely doesn't present moment. That's the only time that we have right now, this is the only time that we have. Nobody has tomorrow guaranteed. Yeah, nobody babies, Old people die, young people died, right that. Yeah. You know, we talk about being in the present moment a lot here. You know, my mom was diagnosed with dementia last year, one year before last, on Christmas, the day after Christmas found yes, And so in the beginning of that, I was trying to find everything that I can do on my own to cure whatever this was that I thought was an enemy to my family. But then as I continue to go through it and just really doing this podcast, it truly made me understand that actually this is a gift. And you said it. Things are not happening to us, but it's happening for us because I'll be able to speak about my journey and my mother's journey to help someone else that haven't gotten there yet, you understand. And so just you saying that and speaking that, and I truly hope that all of my listeners are truly hearing this. It was so many gems that was dropped today. There was so many things that she had spoken about that not only are we talking about this month and this year about rebirth, but also what we talked about through our transformation, through our resilience, through being showing up for this new version of yourself again. I love it said, don't kill the old version of you all the way because that's a part of your foundation. But now you know, you know a new perspective of it. You understand it's like we're putting on a new pair of pants or a new dress or absolutely yes, I love that. I show that and thank you for sharing. Uh, the situation with your mom. It helps you. I appreciate more the moments that she's back because you don't know when you're gonna have it again. So if because you are a presence, so the best thing that you can do is be present with her because when she's back, oh, you're my daughter, right and you are there. So it helps. So cancer helped me appreciate my health. Dementia helps you appreciate the everyday moments that we take for granted, yes, because they're gone. So when your mom is back, you're like, oh yes, and you talk about the why do you talk about whatever she wants to talk about, and then when she's gone, you treasure that conversation a lot more than all the other conversations because you said that you can have this conversation from the verse of your life. If anything, I will encourage the listeners to listen to what we are saying and take this our experiences so that they can learn from our experiences and they don't have to go through this shit themselves. To start valuing every moment, because this is a moment that is not going to come back. It's gone forever. So if we are if we are not in the present moment, we lost this moment. Forever. We are and we are thinking about all what's going to happen. In March, and it's like, again, you might. Fucking die to know, you're not gonna make it too much, but you miss this moment, right, So it's about that meditation that you had at the beginning, coming back to the present moment, taking that de breath, grounding yourself so that you can be present in what you are doing. Let's say that you have an important meeting for work in two weeks. Well, the best thing that you can do about that important meeting is. To right now to take action about that meeting, do more research, to find out more whatever. So you are doing something and so the anxiety cannot take over. When you are taking action, you are literally getting out of your head and into the present moment. I cannot freak. Out about that meeting and describe a. Picture on the world. I can't. So we are sending the message to the brain that I know what you want to do. You want to freak out about that meaning, but right now we're doing research about the subject so we can be better prepared. Right here, you are the CEO of your life, not your brain. Yes, say that again, say that you are. You are the CEO of your life, not your brain. You are directing that meeting, And here is the brain that we're gonna We're going to fuck up that meeting. We're okay, thank you for your input. But right now we are doing research so we can be better prepared for that meeting. I know that's right. I love I love this, I love this whole conversation. I really't do. But that's what it went past so fast, it went past so fast, it really did. So this I'm gonna say something right now, but then then I'm gonna open it up back to you so you can tell us exactly what you have a family. If you are ready to. Start your own journey or transformation, don't forget to download. Our free resource, the Year of Rebirth. Work Book, and this guide is designed to help you to reflect, set intentions and take actionable steps towards your new beginning. You can find it on our website or through the link that's in our in our show notes. But let me tell you something, and I said this last week, and I'm gonna go continue to say, don't just be sitting here just listening to my voice, so listening to my beautiful guest voice and just say, oh, I love the way to harmonize. No, no, this is the time to truly take these notes and apply them to your life, to your life. If you truly want to do something better for your life, for your children, life break, generational curses, whatever. It is, make that decision. Understand what your visualization of your life is and apply discipline, discipline with. It all the time. Zamma, my swearing therapist, I love that. Thank you for sharing your story and your wisdom with us today. Your journey, it has been a reminder that not that no matter how tough life gets, we have all the power to rise above and reveal. Now for you, what do you have going on? How can the listeners come and see you? Speak to you, talk to you. You know what, speak it, say it. Yes, Thank your game for having being such an honor and so much fun. So my instagram is the story in Therapist and I have videos they are that I upload. I hope I will be doing that more often. But I have a lot of videos on grief and anxiety and depression and trauma and all those things. And then my website is Dragonfly Therapist Services that net. I am licensed in the state. Of Nevada, so people need to be in the state of Nevada. But if you have any questions, reach out to me anyway. If I cannot help you directly, I will provide you with resources. So I would like to close with this. If you walk up today. That means that your mission in life is not complete. So keep pushing through fifteen minutes at a time, and thank you again for having me. Thank you, thank you, thank you, and family, oh my god, family. As we continue on the series at the New Beginnings, I want to remember this every day is an opportunity to rewrite your story. You are stronger than you will lives and your best chapter is still ahead, So make sure if you haven't subscribed to the Season and Self Love, share this episode with someone who needs encouragement and join us next time as we explore more inspiring stories and strategies on living. Our best life. So until then, keep loving yourself fiercely and step into your power. I see you next time. Have an amazing day. Thank you for joining us on this journey of discovering and empowerment here at the Season and Self Love Podcast. Remember embracing self love is a continuous journey and we're so. Glad to have you with us. 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