Building Emotional Resilience: Embracing Food Freedom & Self-Acceptance with Abby Mallard

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I'm your host Naomi Banks, and this month we are diving into a theme of emotional resilience. What it means to build strength from the inside out, especially in the face of life challenges. Well, today's conversation is one that's close to my heart, and I know it will speak to so many of you too. We're talking about how our relationship with food, Yes, with food, with our bodies, and with our inner narrative place a powerful role in cultivating resilience and joining me. Is someone who truly embodies this message is Abbe Mallard. Abby is a nutritionist, a food relationship coach, and a yoga teacher who turned her personal healing journey into a mission of empowering others after walking through her own recovery from disorder eating. Abby now helps people embrace food, freedom, self acceptance, and emotional well being. Y'all, this is one is going to be deep, real and filled with so much healing energy. 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Remind me that you are of the strength that you carry within. I want you to breathe in calm and breathe out the tension. Now, anfirm to yourself. I am resilient, I am worthy of nourishment, and I am enough. Breathe in again, Excel, and when you are ready, gently open your eyes. All right, maybeutiful people will welcome back. First of all, thank you for sharing that space with me. And if you are new here to the Season and Cuphlo podcast, it's something we do every day Monday through Friday. It's just the ground that's before we get into the topic. All right, So this get into this topic happy. First of all, thank you for being here again, and I want to start right from where the heart is your story. Can you share a bit about your journey and what led you to this work. Yeah. Yeah, So I always felt kind of alone and like I didn't fit in in the world. I think that that resonates with a lot of people, and just felt really lonely and struggled with some depression and anxiety and growing up. Home life was pretty good up till about eleven, and then there was a big change in our family's life and just kind of brought all of that loneliness and suffering up to the surface. Really felt isolated, not cared for, and so it started to turn into a coping mechanism for me, which was an eating disorder and really controlling my food, controlling what went in, controlling what went out, you know, feeling like I had something that I could control in life. And long story shorts, I started struggling when I was around thirteen or fourteen, mainly bulimia, binging, purging, some anarexia thrown in there, kind of a back and forth, and I think a little bit. Of it, Naomi. It was coping, but it was also almost a cry for help of if I am not doing well enough, maybe someone will notice me. And my family never noticed, and I think that was really hard for me. But I ended up asking for help from my mom when I was around seventeen, four or five years after I started struggling, and I'm very very grateful that she was responded well and got me the support and help that I needed. Worked with a nutritionist and I titian therapist, and my dietitian. I loved her so much. She could see things going on below the surface, and she was really like a therapist to me as well, not just a dietitian, and she really really helped me heal and gave me some tough love. I was going into, you know, graduating from college and I wanted to move out and move states away, and my dietitian was like, if you don't start to make some progress and you don't gain some weight back and like get your shit together here, essentially, I'm not going to let you go. And that was really hard to hear, but I think it gave me that kind of like kick to Okay, I need to actually control this part of it now so that I can go get what I need in life to be able to heal and get to a better place. So I ended up going to college for nutrition after doing a lot of healing work. We can get into more of the nitty gritty healing stuff if you want. But now I am so grateful and honored to be at a place where I am free from that struggle and can now support people who are in the same space that I was, you know, kind of that struggle of food, but also body image and just not prioritizing yourself, feeling lonely, all of those different pieces that I think it's really a big struggle for a lot of us in life, whether it's a clinically diagnosed eating disorder or not. Yeah, you know, first of all, I want to say thank you, thank you for just being vulnerable enough to share your story. You know, a lot of times we think that we are by ourselves when we're going through this journey, and it's hard for you know, to show face, to show your face as if we say, a mask and allow people to know. But you just don't understand how many people that you truly resonate with. It's just amazing that you started ed let's say eleven. You really started as such a young age with with the whole you know, disorder of eating. But then when I hear you, there was so much I hear abandonment, I hear so many things that was happening right in with that, and I guess even your relationship with food, we don't look at it as having a relationship with food, but really that was your struggle. You figure, if someone's gonna love me and it's gonna be the food that I eat, it's gonna love me back. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, thank you for that. Yeah, yeah, you know. And I hope, oh go ahead, no, And I hope who's ever listening right now that you you know, because now that I'm sitting here and I'm thinking about this whole episode right now, and I had it planned to go one way, and it just feels like it's getting ready to go a whole total, a whole total different way. So I'm just gonna surrender and I'm allow it to go that way. So, so if there's anyone that's listening right now to this episode right here with myself an Abbey, I truly want you to know is that you are not alone in this at all, whether it is as she said that you have been clinical diagnosed with her or even going up on the up and down yo yo, diets just having a relationship with eating the food that we put in our bodies is very essential to us, especially right now. There are so many different chemicals and everything that are in these different foods that we get in from the stores or whatever, that we have to be aware. I am a very spiritual person right now, and so the things that I tend to put in my body right now there for nourishment, There for nourishment for my spirit and my soul. And even right now going through surgery, actually rebuilding myself. My surgery was ex planner, so I removed toxic bags in my body, and so now I'm rebuilding a wholeness of myself with having a better relationship with food and just being committed to honoring my body, you know what I mean. I love the way that you said that even with your mom, that her being receptive with you and being there, being that courage that you needed, you needed that support, you know, just going through that. You know, because I see so many women that go through and let's not just say women, men as well go through it. Right now with social media being so prevalent out there. I'm a little older than you, I believe so, and so back in the day when I was growing up a teenager, I didn't we didn't have social media. We didn't have any of this, and so my comparison was the girl next door or the girl that played on the other basketball teams. So there was not a variety guide of people that we compare ourselves too. And when you see that social media does that with that, you know with it, and it's so disheartening for you. Was there ever a time that you compared yourself to social media or somebody else that probably put, like I want to say, put the battery in your back to do it more. Does that make sense? Yeah, yeah, that totally makes sense. That's a really good, good question, and I want to answer that, but I want to really come back quick to something that you said about your ex plant surgery and healing your relationship with food. That's also healing your relationship with your body, right, like accepting yourself for who you are. I just think that that's really beautiful. Not that there's anything wrong, you know, with plants, those types of things, but I think it's really beautiful when you can really accept and appreciate your body for what it is and not always be constantly fighting to change it and look a different way, look a certain way, all of that which is a lot of the comparison peace right, and yes, to answer your question, yes, I always felt a little bit compared to my sister growing up, my older sister, and like my parents wanted to be me to be more like her. Not necessarily physically, but that kind of was how I internalized some of that. She was a lot thinner than I was, more of that tall, skinny, you know build, and I think that that was probably the closest person to me that I kind of compared with. I wasn't on social media a lot growing up. I was. I grew up in a very conservative, strict family household, so we didn't really have access to internet and social media and all of those things. But different people, you know, at the church that I grew up in or the youth group that I went to, like, there was definitely some of that comparison piece of oh I'm supposed to look more like this person, or you know, the comments that people make of that maybe aren't intentionally harmful, but then are internalized to oh, well, maybe I shouldn't look this way, or I should lose some weight or look at different a different way. Yeah, yeah, yeah, So let me ask you this. I want to dive into the emotional resilience, you know some for you, what does it mean to What does it mean to you, especially through the lens of healing in full of emotional resilience. Yeah, that's a big question. I think there's lots of lighters to it, and I think that for me, one of the biggest pieces of emotional resiliency is is being okay with feeling emotions, right, because so often we're taught to stuff everything down inside, to not verbalize it to you know, not be angry, not feel the quote unquote negative emotions. Where I think that it's really important and really healing to be able to speak that emotion into like get it out of your body, talk about it, tell someone how you're feeling, really identify how you're feeling, rather than just pushing everything down inside and like accept yourself through that feeling. Right. I have a practice that I work on a lot with my clients where it's you know, identifying kind of your top three emotions. We use the emotion wheel, which if you google, like that's a really helpful tool to just kind of like give language to emotions. I don't think a lot of us are taught that growing up like we know, happy said, angry, the main ones, but then getting more in depth, so kind of naming your top three emotions, noticing how you're feeling when you're feeling overwhelmed or overstimulated or anxious or stressed or whatever that kind of big feeling is, and then really breaking it down, like what's causing me to feel this way? What is this feeling telling me that I need right now? And then what is like the next small right thing that I can do for myself to help myself move through this feeling, not necessarily to fix it or get rid of it, but to help move through it in a more gentle and compassionate way instead of the beating ourselves up, pushing it all down inside, being hard on ourselves. So I feel like that's a really big piece of emotional resilience for me. Yeah, you know, I love that. I love that you said compassion along with that. You know, we here at the season and Stufflob, we always start self. Love starts first. That's how we speak to ourselves, especially when we're struggling. But it's another thing. What I love you said is about acknowledging what that negative is and what that you know, what that hurt is because we have to give a definition or what or what it is. And I love that you said, it's more than that happy anger or said or whatever it is. Let's give a definition with it so we can work through it. Because, as my my resident theory is doctor Will said, we are always healing because in the back of our mind there is something that will trigger it, that will always come up. But the longest we have the tools to understand that this is a moment right now that we need to honor and embrace. Let's get through this. Let's go move forward and go it. And having the language and the twos to do so is an amazing thing. I thank you. I love that you said that. And the thing is do we say this a lot? Yes? We do, But you have another language. And this is something that I tell all of my beautiful guests, my guests turn into coworkers or teammates. You're my teammate now teammates, is that we all speak a different language. And I just don't know who is listening today that they might speak your language, that it might resonate even more about understanding with those words is understanding. Okay, this is how I feel today. It has a meaning and why is that? And I love that. I love that. So let's talk about food. Let's talk about food. How did healing your relationship with food become a gateway to a deeper emotional freedom for you? Oh God, I mean in so many ways, because when I had a really bad, unhealthy, negative disordered relationship with food, food was the only thing that I thought about, Like literally, twenty four to seven, only thing in my brain was food, food, what I'd eaten, if I was allowed to eat per my standards or my eating disorder voice inside of my head. You know, all all of the obsessive thoughts around food that was that took up all of my brain space. And you know, when you're when you're completely one hundred percent obsessed over something, which it's so funny when I think back, is funny and sad when I think back to it. You know, I feel like my eating disorder came as a way of coping. But then that turns into such something that has such control over you. It's not something that you control. It's not a coping mechanism of control, even when it feels like it in the moment. But when something has that much control over you, and you are so obsessively thinking about that all of the time, you don't have space for other things. You don't have space to acknowledge the emotions, you don't have space to really like feel what you're feeling because it's all wrapped up around one thing. And so I think healing my relationship with food really helped me to create some space in my life, not just for emotions, but to also like figure out who Abby was and build a relationship with myself and build a life that I loved and was peaceful and joyful, rather than completely obsessing and thinking over food all of the time. Yeah. Yeah, you know, as you as you were talking right here, it was just something that just came. I apologize first, It's just something just came just over me completely. When I when I when I think about addiction, and you know, and I know everybody a lot of people can agree with me, you don't think about food being an addiction. So when you said when you made that statement about when you're in that when you're in that process and you're eating and eating, and you're eating and there is nothing else that you can do, and I think about my father used to be an alcoholic before he passed away. And so I remember, like, you know, you're not supposed to drink, but he would constantly continue to keep drinking because it was something that he needed. You know, that was a part of his addiction. And you don't know what addiction is until you've been in that space. And so what I love that you said is that I had to figure out who Abby was without that external satisfaction for me, and I was hoping, my prayer is that the listeners got that, and that's why I needed to come back and say that. Is that what you were saying is that I had to truly find out who Abby was without the external validation, the external comfort, all of that external things. Yes, exactly what self love, the season of self love is all about, is finding who you are from within of your own and not outside external satisfaction. I remember I wanted to share this with you really fastest. I remember I was at this up and down, you know, go go type of diet because all of my life I've spent in front of the camera, so it's always been be this way tall, such and such and such and such. As I neared the age of fifty, I was like forty eight years old, and I was looking at pictures and I was like, wow, you actually look good for forty eight. But in my mind, I'm thinking like, oh my god, I'm much bigger than when I was, when I was twenty, when I was thirty. Yes, you have three children, you've birthed three children. Getting older, your metapolism is getting slower. But when you were smaller, you were wishing you had the hips. Now you have the hips, so now let's embrace that. But I remember before then, before it clicked, I remember having those unhealthy relationships with food. It might look different from somebody else, but mine is where I would sit there and just eat, eat, eat, eat, and feel this y'all. When I tell you it felt excuse me, life, It felt like an ultimate orgaism. Really, when I was eating and I said, wait, hold on, this is not what the supposed to be. I'm not supposed to be coming off a full Yeah, you know, I understand the AFRODIZI, but this is food that was not afrodize. It was just anything a burger. I have burger. It was just anything that was just feeling my thing. But what I found out what that was is that that was a part of my insecurities of getting older. That was a part of my insecurities of finding my and I don't want to say new person, but finding that that authentic part of me that now I have to reveal myself exactly who I am and not the Naomi Banks persona. So in that process it was it kind of toled me up a little bit. I ain't golt abby, but me even going through my spiritual journey, it helped me so much to you know, kind of like all right, this is what this is. Yeah, yeah, I love that, And I love how you talk about like it really is about finding yourself without the external validation, right, and then being okay with moving through the world as the person that you are without needing the external validation, which is so not what society and culture tells us. Right. It's hard to break free of that pattern. It's hard to you know, always feel secure and who you are without needing the external validation. But I think that that such an important piece of healing and then also emotional resiliency is being able to, you know, show up as yourself. And I think it's really beautiful too. When we show up authentically as ourselves, we really attract our people, but we also create safe space for other people to show up as themselves, and I think that we need so much more of that in the world right now. Yes, you are so right, and I just want to say again, thank you. And I have to when I have guests on I say this all the time because it is hard to be I'm gonna say, naked in front of the world, you know, especially in the day of time where you know, social media do give people permission to have an opinion, and sometimes opinions are not so nice. But for you, I understand you went through your healing process. What does that look like for you when you are on social media, when you are creating this safe space for you? How have you been now with that? Hmm? I had a little bit of noise, So can you repeat that question one more time? How has it been now that you've been through your healing process and you go on social media and you post and you you know, you're doing your thing. How are you now relating to those comments or whatever on there? What do you do the better enhance or mentally help you with your emotional resilience? There we go that. Yeah, yeah, that's a good question. Okay. So I have dealt with my fair share of mean comments, and especially as I moved more into the real abbey and showing up authentically, you know, that ruffles some people's feathers. And uh, it used to really it used to really tear me down when people would you know, make me in comments or send me a mean message. And a big part of it for me, Naomi, was that piece of like naming the emotion, like, Okay, what is this bringing up in me? What am I feeling? Like? It's okay to feel angry when someone sends you something mean, It's okay to feel hurt, instead of just stuffing it all down inside having lots of conversations with my husband or my you know, closest friends of like Okay, this person said this, and I'm not okay and I just need to get it out. But now, you know, it's still I still feel that anger, and that hurts sometimes when those comments or messages pop up. But I think that now the main difference is I stand up for myself. I don't have a back and forth conversation with someone because that's not beneficial for me or for them, and I don't have the time or energy that I want to spend on that, but I will send something back instead of just ignoring it or you know, kind of having like a conversation curiosity. You know, curiosity is important, but sometimes you just need to shut it down. And so that's a big difference now like in the past, when I would kind of be hurt or feel really anxious about having a conversation with someone or feel you know, like I didn't want to hurt their feelings. Now I'll just you know, kindly respond and stand up for myself, like, Okay, no, the way that you said this was not respectful, and I would appreciate if you didn't talk to me in that way, or you know, maybe you didn't mean it in this way, but this is. What you're doing. You are you know, you are shaming, You are placing guilt, whether that's how you you know, want it to come across or not. Yeah. Yeah, So I think that biggest piece is just like standing up for myself and knowing that you know, I'm important and I don't have to tolerate boys, like we don't have to tolerate bullys, and internet bullies are a real thing, Like people are a lot more brave behind the screen than they are in real life. Sometimes. Oh yeah, you know it's something that I learned well, you know, with my transformation and going from one part of my life to another part of the life. You know, I get it all the time. And I remember it's a dear friend of mine. She'd be ready to just to jump on, and I said, nope, we're not going to give them that same energy. So we're not going to give there. I say, said, if anything we we killed, that would love because I love everyone. But what I've what I've learned to understand is that everybody is not at the same emotional space that I am, you know, And I got there by this amazing book Before Agreements. I remember when that book was given to me and told to me, and I read it, I listened to it. I did, and that's the book I listened to every few months just to remind me of something. And just not too long ago, I had an amazing guest on and she said, Naomi, have you ever read The Four Agreements? I hadn't read it in a few months, and I said, yes, that is my favorite book. But thank you, because that was telling me that I need to go back to reading that book, because now when people post comments I said that ain't even about me, that's not they ain't got nothing to do with me. That's that has to do with them. So now what are you going to do to help them? That's that's now. It's my biggest thing is when people have these negative comments, It's like, Okay, what what tools can you give them through your reaction to your response? You know? And that's my thing. And people say, are you you always nice? No, I'm not always nice, But why even give them the energy of negative when I know they need a hug? Yeah? For real? Yeah. I had a friend recently ask me, like, how do you keep your heart open and don't how do you not put up all of these walls when you've had, you know, these experiences and and my response was like, I don't think my heart is open to everyone. Like I can love everyone and hold compassion and kindness for everyone, but I don't have to have that trust and let them have access to my heart like they might have had in the past before they did something that showed me their true colors or you know, like I think that's when we hold those boundaries and are able to approach people with kindness and love, but while not letting them, you know, get into that like hurt and into your personal space. Then you can hold more more space for everyone. Yeah, you know, I love that you say. I don't think that. I don't think that we really know well, we know it, but I think a lot of people really don't understand about what boundaries are. When people think about boundaries, they think about we're cutting everything off. It's you know, like this and no. There can be different levels to the boundaries depending on what relationship that you might have with one another or what people on the outside. The whole thing is making sure that you continue to be your authentic self, that you don't have to be able to put on a mask to be able to have a conversation with somebody, that it is just the real authentic because that is what you require for that person to communicate with you. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's so exhausting when you have to put a mask on all the time. Is time it has been. You know, this is the most freeoust that I've ever felt. I say this all the time when people they say, naomen you you don't know. I am so good. I am so overflowing with joy you know, do I have some days, Oh yeah, it might be a good hour or something like that that I have. But then I sit in gratitude and I understand how far I've come where I'm at right now, and understand exactly where God is taking me. I'm living in my purpose. It's amazing that I'm here able to sit on this platform and speak to amazing people like you who are looking to do the same thing I do, is to serve one another, to use our pain as purpose and our experience as a purpose in life. And when you get that, that's it. Yeah. I love that. It's like you said, it's living out your purpose. It's so fulfilling and it's yeah. Yeah. And even if it's not using pain for purpose, I mean, I think we all have opportunities for that. But when you're able to really show up as your authentic self and create that safe space, like that's so purposeful in and of itself. You are so correct, You are so right or so. I got a few more questions. What are some daily to that you use or recommend for to help build up that emotional strength. Yeah, I think the emotional check in activity that I was talking about earlier is a good one, especially, you know, if you're having a harder day or just feeling a little bit more overwhelmed. I like to pull that out. Deep breathing, getting outside, just the simple things, right, like taking a deep breath, stepping away from the screens for five to ten minutes, talking to a friend, getting it, you know, getting it out of your body. If you don't have a friend to talk to, writing it out on paper, just kind of getting it out of your brain can be helpful. Yeah, getting outside, fresh air. But then also like taking really good care of your body. You know. I think that a lot of times we don't think about the way that food impacts our brain and our emotions, and food has a big impact on how we feel physically and mentally, and so something that I always love to throw out the statistic that forty percent of the nutrients that you eat go directly to your brain. That's almost half of the food that you're eating. I don't think we think about that a lot, but that really packs like how you're able to think clearly, and your mood and emotions and all of those things. So making sure that you know, maybe I'm not eating like clean, that's not my mission that's not my focus. But I'm still making sure that I'm getting some protein, getting some vegetables, drinking my water, things like that that are going to help support my body. And then I really like somatic movement. So yoga is really beautiful. I absolutely love yoga. I teach it obviously, so I must love it. But also somatic movement, So shaking, spiraling the hips, shaking out the hips, areas that we really keep emotions stuck in the body can be really really helpful, especially if I'm feeling like really kind of triggered or angry or anxious. Sometimes just like shaking out the hands really fast, just getting a little bit of movement can be really beneficial. So just some simple things, because I think that you know, in our normal day to day life, we don't have a lot of time for extensive end up things. But those are some of the small things that have been helpful for me. Yes, I love that. I hope y'all right? And is there. Food? Right, It's not just food. It's about the freedom, it really is. And just as you said that that's a reminder for me, is that usually when especially when I'm interviewing different people and I have life back to back to back interviews, and sometimes depending on who I'm talking to, I'm very sensitive when it comes to energy, and so energetically I'm you know, I grab the energy, and sometimes I don't have enough time to do the whole staging, do the whole print to get it out, you know. So I'm glad that you're reminded me of that, Like, okay, that is just a few less flicks up the wrists, you know, get it out. Yeah, thank you for that. You're welcome. Another good one, shaking downward facing dog. You know that post you don't know, Google it for those of you listening Downward facing Dog, and then you bounce your heels up and down really fast, so it's almost like you're but you're not. But it's just shaking. It's another method of shaking that is really good for just kind of releasing stuck emotions in your body. Right right, beautiful, Thank you for that one. Thank you for getting that one. Well, you know, at the time of recording right now, I've been preparing for a major transformation physically, emotionally, and spiritually, and one thing that I realized is that resilience shows up in the smallest moments in the smallest moments and choosing you know, true it's just yourself to rest, speak and kindly of yourself when it's really hard, when it's hard for me. This whole month, I have to prepare for surgery for next month, like you know, no certain vitamins or herbals and you know those things like that, and so that alone trying to figure out, Okay, what's gonna make your body good. So when you do go through that, then it's the aftercare as well for it and knowing like okay, we're not gonna put this back in there. But what I do love is that I understand to be compassionate with myself in this process. Yeah. Yeah, it doesn't have to be perfect. Yeah yeah, yeah, that is what I've been learning. I am retired perfections. Me too. It's a daily struggle. The healing never stops. Like you said earlier, it's ups and it's out there exactly. It is ups and down all right, my family. So you know, I love to leave with something that you can do right now. So I got a many challenge for you. I want you to start each morning with one affirmation. One affirmation and this one says I am worthy of nourishment. I trust myself and my body is not my enemy. It is my home. It is my home. So before your next meal, I wanted to take thirty seconds to thank your body, tune into your hunger cubes, and eat with presents. That's something that when I decided that I was going to do an X plant, I remember sitting at my altar and I remember thinking my implants because it allowed me a platform when I was in the industry and just in the industry period, to do so many amazing things, you understand, And so I know now it's no longer aligned with me, you know, now it's kind of working again. But I've honored that. I honored the decision and the choice that I made, and I understand what the process is and where I'm going with it. So it actually allowed me to truly live beyond my purpose when I thought it was just self love and this something else totally created, you know, from that whole choice and decision for that. And so for me, all that does is just help me build more emotional resilience as I continue in life. And so I want to tell you the listeners, is that every choice that we may know and believe that it's a lesson behind that. It's a lesson behind that. My whole thing is that just be open to receiving. With that lesson is yeah, yeah, with that lesson is all right. So we have come to the end of our show and it's been amazing talking to you, so Abby. If you can just tell my listeners what can they find you at. What's something that you have new coming up, either if it's a book or class, or give it to us. Yeah, yeah, thank you, Thank you so much for having me. If you want to find me, my business name is health my Friend. That's me on Instagram, Health my Friend. That's my main social platform website, Healthmfriend dot com, podcast, Help my Friend. I really try to keep everything streamlined so it's easy to find me. If you need more grounding tools, reach out. I can give you more those different, you know, small things throughout the day and then something coming up. I don't have anything virtually coming up in the near future, but if you're in the Charlotte, North Carolina area or local, I am starting to teach booty yoga b U t I and it's a very somatic practice with a lot of that shaking inspiraling that we were talking about and working on getting a little bit of an online platform for those classes as well, so you know, if you want to connect, just follow me and I'll get you plugged in for all the updates. And if your local, I'd love to have your beautiful, beautiful and what is your website again, healthmfriend dot. Com Health with a thh not a P because I was listening, so it's health, Yes, yes, yes, beautiful beautiful. All right, my listeners, I want you all to remember that resilience live inside of you. It's not nothing you earn, it's something that you already have. So if you have resonated with this episode, please share this with the hashtag the Season and Stuff Love, and don't forget to follow Abby as well. And I guess we will see y'all next week as we continue diving into this transforming challenges of your resilience to kid again, have an amazing, amazing day. Thank you for tuning in, Thank you for joining us on this journey of discovering it here at the Season and Self Love Podcast. Remember, embracing self love is a continuous journey and we're so glad to have you with us. So if you enjoy today's episode, Please leave us a review, and don't forget to join our community on Facebook at Season and self Love. Connect with like minded individuals who are also on their self love journey. Now, if you have any questions or topics that you'd like for us to explore, we love to hear from you. Email us at seasonousseelf Love at gmail dot com and let your voice be heard. So until next time, take a moment for yourself today and remember you are worthy of love, joy, and all the beautiful things that life has to offer.